You know you don’t have to try so hard to be nice, agreeable, and accommodating to others, Dear One if you are not feeling nice, agreeable, and accommodating.

Yes, of course you always want to do your best to be respectful, courteous, and compassionate to those around you, but know that there is no less courteous an act then that of being inauthentic, false or phony.

Don’t pretend to like something that you don’t.  Don’t pretend to agree when you disagree.  Don’t pretend to be interested when you are not. Especially if you are doing so out of a sense of respect.  Because we can assure you, Dear One, that there is nothing respectful about being disingenuous, deceptive, or fake.

Friend, boyfriend, lover, wife, spouse, partner, neighbor, sister, brother, cousin, best friend, confidant, significant other, soul mate, buddy, companion, associate, cohort or chum. 

You have lots of ways of defining, categorizing and labeling your relationships, Dear One.  And we realize that these measures can be greatly varied, intricately complicated, highly emotional, and hold a great deal of significance for you.   We know that they strongly influence and in some cases totally determine how you act towards someone, how you think, feel and react around them, and your expectations of them.   We get it. We really do understand.

But from where we are standing there truly is only one measure by which all relationships are defined, categorized and labeled — and that measure, Dear One, is the amount of love shared.

As we see it, how you choose to define a relationship is so much less significant than the amount of love that you choose to bring to it and allow yourself to experience within it.

So, what is in a name, Dear One?

As far as we are concerned, as long as there is love there, not a whole hell of a lot.

You don’t have to fight the brewing storm, Dear One, or fear it, run from it or hide from it.

There is another option you know.

You can simply allow it to come, and trust yourself enough to know that you can handle it, whatever it may be.

Truth is, your opinion of it, your feelings about it, your actions towards it, your awareness of it, are all feeding it, are all adding to it, are all attaching you to it.

If you are giving your attention to it, you are making a contribution to it.  So we would like for you to choose with great intention what you would like that contribution to be.

You can speed it up or slow it down,  you make can make it stronger and more fierce or kinder and gentler, or you can add levity, compassion, calm and peacefulness, or you can add anger, fear, confusion, and angst.  You can even turn it around, or stop it all together.

And before you ask, yes, you are that powerful.

Don’t miss them, Dear One.

Close your eyes, open your heart and connect with them instead. ♥️

If it isn’t clean, cleansing, or nourishing, Dear One, don’t eat it, don’t take it in.

This applies to every consumable in your life; food, information, energy, and people.

Any questions?

Please ASK! 

Run, don’t walk away from anything or anyone that causes you to feel uneasy, unstable, or unsafe today, Dear One.

We don’t want you practicing/learning how to better tolerate the discomfort of mistrust.

We want you practicing/learning how to heed to it.

It’s really important that you do.

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We know that you are tough,  Dear One and we know that you are strong, and clever, and resourceful tool.  We know that you are extremely capable of coping with, adapting to, accepting, and working around obstacles, difficulties, and pain.

But the truth is that we don’t want you to be.

What we want for you, Dear One, is that when you first feel that splinter go in, when you first feel that little prick of pain, when that alarm sounds and you experience those first pangs of concern, distress, discomfort, hurting, or dis-ease, that you give your coping skills a rest for a change.

We don’t want to see you reach for your usual box of Band-Aids and show us and the rest of the world just how well you can adapt to it, cope with it, rationalize it or downplay it and keep on going.  What we want, Dear One, is to see you reach for the tweezers instead.

We don’t want you getting better, and becoming more practiced at learning to live with the little pricks in your life.  We want you getting better at removing them, while they are still small, before they have a chance to take root, evolve, spread, and grow into bigger ones.

Regret weighs you down, Dear One.  It holds you back, keeps you still, roots you to a moment in the past, prevents you from moving forward.

And by contrast, forgiveness frees you.  It releases you, it sets you free, and allows you to create, to move ahead, to experience something new.

If what you want is to remain still, Dear One,  then by all means, keep holding on to your regrets.

But if what you want is freedom, is to move forward, you are going to have to choose to forgive, and let it go.

How do you know if you are in the flow, Dear One, if you are on the right path for you, if you are going after the right things for you, in the right way for you?

Here is one simple way to know for sure.

• If you are enjoying your pursuit of it, you are on the right track.
• If you are pursuing it in hopes of finding enjoyment at the end, chances are, you are not.

That is how you know.

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We can feel your impatience, Dear One, your restlessness, your desire to move on from where you are now, to someplace new, to where you want to be.

We can see you searching, looking, trying, struggling, experimenting, stumbling around looking for the key to the door that you think will get you there.

Well, we’ve got some bad news for you.  No matter where you look, no matter how hard you try, no matter much you visualize it, no matter how much you want it, you are never going to find that key, Dear One.  Ever.

Why?

Because it doesn’t exist.

The door is already open.

And all you need to do is walk through it.