• Who said that it was too hard Dear One?
• Who said that you couldn’t do it?
• Who said that you were not worth the effort?
• Who said that your way was the wrong way?
• Who said that you didn’t know better?
• Who said that your opinion didn’t matter?
• Who said don’t even bother trying?

And who chose to believe that they were right?

• Do more of what feels good.
• Do less of what feels bad.

• If it pleases you, pay attention to it.
• If it does not please you, give it as little of your attention as you possibly can, none if you can manage it.

• Smile, a lot.

That’s all there is to it!

Simple, not easy.

But totally worth the effort, we can assure you of that.

• You cannot undo that which has been done
• You cannot change a moment in the past
• You cannot take back words once they have been spoken
• You cannot always fix it

But you can always apologize Dear One.

An apology is meant to serve as a diffuser, an acknowledgment of regret, an opportunity for forgiveness, to allow the release of the hurt feelings created as a result of hurtful act, whether it was intentional or not.

But before it can have any chance of successfully doing any of these things, it is necessary that you first forgive yourself.

It is essential that you first release the pain, the sorrow, the guilt, the regret that you are holding onto within you.  It is essential  that you find a way to let it go, and open up, and heal that space within you so that you can show them how its done, show them what it looks like to do so, have room in your heart to share with them Dear One, to help give them the strength to do the same.

We understand that what we are asking is not an easy thing to do.

But remember, that what you are asking them to do is even more difficult than that.

How can you even think of asking them to do this very difficult thing, to accept your apology, to consider forgiveness Dear One, if you are not willing to do the very difficult work necessary to forgive yourself first.

Direct your energy consciously Dear One, and it will go where you send it.

You will always pretty much know in what direction it is headed, and it is unlikely that you will ever be completely surprised when it gets there.

(Excited, yes! Pleased, absolutely! Overjoyed, of course! But totally surprised, probably not.)

But stop paying attention, and hand the reigns over to your unconscious self and let it do the driving, and you can pretty much guarantee that you will always be surprised by where your energy ends up.

If that destination is a good surprise for you, fantastic! That means that your unconscious self is serving you well.

However if the destination is not a good surprise, if you are finding yourself on the receiving end of something that you did not request, that is not desired in any way, shape or form, well then you’ve got some work to do.

But you’ve also got a very useful piece of information in your hands Dear One, a confirmation that you are not paying as close attention as you could be to how you are directing and flowing your energy.

And unlike an unwelcome surprise that has already found its way to your doorstep, that is something that you absolutely can do something about.

Release your expectations of them, Dear One.

Let them follow their bliss, and you follow yours.

Because in the end your happiness is not determined by what they think, what they say, what they do or what they choose next.

It is determined by how you do all of those things.

If you really want to be useful Dear One, if you really want to help, don’t reach out and help them to carry their burden when they are in need.

Reach out and help them to put it down instead.

It is the glasses that you choose to wear, that you choose to put on each morning Dear One, that determines the way that you see the world each day.

You can choose to view the world and all of the people, places, events and circumstances in it through lenses of horror, self-pity, anger, frustration, judgement, disgust, or fear if you want.  Or you can choose to view the world through lenses of compassion, curiosity, optimism, hope, empathy, humor, or love.

Remember that the choice is yours.

You can choose to see things from any perspective that you’d like.  And if you should decide that you don’t like the view that you’ve chosen, if you should find that what you are looking at is not pleasing to you, know that you can change it anytime by simply putting on a different pair of lenses.

Every minute of every day we are speaking to you, encouraging you, guiding you towards that which you are wanting for yourself Dear One.   To tap in to, receive, understand this guidance it might be helpful for you to understand why we do this.  It is not to tell you what to do, dictate your choices or create your future.  That is something only you can do, and we would never take away the gift of choice and discovery from you.

• We are not concerned with the color of your shirt but want you to feel empowered by the clothing that you wear.
• We will not encourage you to love one person above another, but will encourage that which will help you to know and experience true love in your heart with another soul that is as open to it as much as or even more so than you are.
• We are not so concerned about what career/work you choose to do, but want you to know that how you spend your time and energy and how you choose to be of service to those around you does matter. We will guide you towards finding fulfillment in your work and encourage you/lead you towards that which will bring you greater enjoyment, meaning and authentic connection to others using the gifts/talents that you have.

We will encourage that which will expand your boundaries and your experience of the world – that which you will bring you the greatest joy while you are doing it.  Whether you are painting pictures, changing light bulbs or teaching children how to read – what you do is of less importance to us than how you feel while you are doing it.

You are contributing to the creation of your world all of the time – with every choice, thought and action that you take.   We want you to remember to enjoy yourself while you are doing it – to help you create from a place of joy, contentment and optimism.  Doing so is not only beneficial to you Dear One, but to all of those that share this world with you.

Want to know a trick Dear One, that will make taking that first step a whole lot easier?

Instead of imagining all that you could lose, all that could go wrong, and how far you have to go,  imagine all that you could gain, and all that could go right, and all the fun that you could have along the way.

Doing so will not make that first step feel any less steep, but it will make it a whole lot less scary and a whole lot more fun to take.

There are some things Dear One, that no matter how hard you try, you will never be able to do.

•  You will never be perfect.
•  You will never be able to make them perfect

You have our word on that.

So you can stop trying.

Does that help?