The physical is the leading edge of thought Dear One, the leading edge of all that is.   And you, your present moment, is the tip of the iceberg.  You are leading the charge.

We just thought you should know.

As you already know very well from experience Dear One, trying to stand still in the constantly flowing river of life creates resistance, and requires so much more effort than trusting, letting go, and allowing yourself to go with the flow does.

If you are not being yourself Dear One, who cares if they like you?

What does it matter really if they like some person that you are pretending to be?

Where is the satisfaction in that?

Why invest your energy into being liked, when investing it in being yourself feels so much better?

I’ve got a two new events coming up in the next few days and weeks; one in New York and the other in Rhode Island.

If you are able to make it to either, I would love to see you there!

Author Signing Event
Saturday, May 26^th, from 2:30pm – 4:30pm

Barnes & Nobel, Middletown Village
1311 West Main Road
Middletown, RI 02842

The bookstore is about 12 minutes from the beautiful Newport waterfront.

You can find directions to the store here.

Discussion, QA, Reading & Signing Event
Friday, June 8^th, from 7pm – 8:30pm

Turn of the Corkscrew, Books & Wine
110 N Park Ave
Rockville Center, NY

Turn of the Corkscrew is a bookstore and wine bar so whether you are motived by the wisdom, the wine or both, I hope to see you there.

You can RSVP here.

Whether or not to love someone is not a decision that can be made logically Dear one. So stop trying so hard to try to “figure it out”.  Because you won’t, you can’t.  Love is not a decision to be made.  Love is a feeling, a force, an experience that you allow, that you share, that you enjoy.

Either you love / allow love to flow through you and to you, or you don’t.

You allow love Dear One.  You don’t choose it.

Either they inspire the feeling, the allowing of it in you, or they do not.

The only decision to be made when it comes to love Dear One is whether or not you are brave enough, open enough, moved enough,  desiring a connection enough, to allow it, to experience it, to surrender yourself to it, when inspiration should strike.

Do you want to know one of the best ways for you to get to know yourself better Dear One?

Slow down, put in the effort, take the time, and get to know them better.

Find out who they really are, what they feel, think, and believe, why they do what they do, why they say what they say.

Make every interaction really personal.

By taking the time to get to know who they really are, instead of spending your time with some superficial version of who you think they really are, you will  be tapping  into a wealth of information about yourself.

Your feelings about them, your reactions to them, and your responses to the real them, will reveal a lot to you, about you.

Whatever it is, whatever you’ve done, or not done, or thought about doing, or didn’t have time to do, or did too quickly, slowly or halfway, or did out of vengeance, anger, fear or weakness  –  practice compassion, kindness, and forgiveness with yourself today, Dear One when you think about it.

Beating yourself up will not serve you in any positive capacity towards doing it differently or better today.

Trust us.  We know.

Kindness.  Compassion. Forgiveness.

Then let it go.

That’s the only way to ensure that the yesterday you will experience tomorrow will be different from today.

The only way to experience change, Dear One, to get somewhere you have never been before, is to choose to do something you have never done before, to say something  you have never said before, to try something you have never tried before, to walk a path you have never walked before, to trust, have faith, be brave, leap.

We know that you know this already.

But we thought that you could use the reminder.

If you want something to be different today Dear One, do something differently.

When the sun comes up in the morning, you know this is a part of a cycle, Dear One.  When the sun sets in the evening, you know this too is part of the same cycle. You do not wonder when the sun disappears at the end of the day if it will rise again the next.  You count on it doing so and act accordingly.

Like the rising and setting of the sun, there are certain cycles that are always at play in your life. Can you spot them? Are there cycles in your romantic relationships, your creativity, your physicality, your friendships, your work?

When it gets dark in the evenings you adjust to that stage of the sun’s cycle.  You have learned to accept and adapt to periods of darkness without fear.  You behave differently during them then you might when the sun is bright. One stage is not better or worse than the other, but each is more or less ideal for completing certain tasks.

Witness the other cycles in your life and take note of how you adapt to periods of darkness vs. light.

When cycles are in motion, things will always change, and change, and then change again.  How you choose to experience that change is up to you.  You can fight it, fear it, dread it, or hate it, or you can trust it, accept it, embrace it and adapt to it, with the eager anticipation of waiting for the beauty of the next sunrise, trusting that regardless of how dark the night may become, that the light will always return.

If you are unsure of what it means to love yourself Dear One, of what it looks like to love yourself, of what you are meant to do, of how you are meant to think, speak act, and behave towards yourself in ways that are loving, we will tell you precisely what you can do to figure it out.

Think of someone that you love very much, deeply, purely, totally, and completely.  Imagine how you would care for them, speak to them, think of them, feed them, comfort, them, react and respond to them if they came to you confused, unsure or in need, with a question, a problem, or hurt feelings, with a broken heart, body or spirit.

• Have you got it?
• Are you picturing it?
• Can you imagine what you would do for them?
• Can you imagine how you would treat them?

If you can, then you’ve just found your answer.