It is the glasses that you choose to wear, that you choose to put on each morning Dear One, that determines the way that you see the world each day.

You can choose to view the world and all of the people, places, events and circumstances in it through lenses of horror, self-pity, anger, frustration, judgement, disgust, or fear if you want.  Or you can choose to view the world through lenses of compassion, curiosity, optimism, hope, empathy, humor, or love.

Remember that the choice is yours.

You can choose to see things from any perspective that you’d like.  And if you should decide that you don’t like the view that you’ve chosen, if you should find that what you are looking at is not pleasing to you, know that you can change it anytime by simply putting on a different pair of lenses.

What can you do for someone who is leaving you Dear One, for someone who is in the process of leaving your physical world and transitioning to spirit?

You can do the only thing for them that you can ever do for anyone else in your life, regardless of what stage of living or dying they are in.

You can love them.

Loving them is not pitying them. And loving them is not fearing for them.  And loving them it is not fixing them, healing them, or deceiving them either.

The very best thing that we can tell you to do for your friend today Dear One, for all of your friends and loved ones  for that matter is this – just keep right on loving them.

Make all of your decisions today Dear One, as if there was someone standing beside you, holding your hand, encouraging you, supporting you, loving you, adoring you, believing in you, cheering you on every step of the way.

Why?

Because there is.

You have come forth into this life Dear One, to be a human being, not a human trying, a human struggling or a human judging.So stop trying, struggling and judging so hard, and allow yourself to just be.

• Be yourself. Be authentic. Be honest.
• Be loving.  Be caring. Be compassionate.
• Be inspiring.  Be creative. Be brave.
• Be sad.  Be angry.  Be confused.
• Be imperfect. Be flawed. Be uncertain.
• Be whatever it is that is in your heart to be.
• Be whatever it is that makes you happy, content and peaceful.
• Be right where you are.

Be what you have come forth to be Dear One.

You.

While you are the process of learning something new Dear One, it is not the right time to be hard on yourself.

It is the time to be kind, loving, patient, forgiving, encouraging, nurturing, compassionate, and generous with yourself.

And since you are pretty much in the process of learning something new all the time…..

The right time to be hard on yourself, is, well, never.

We want to make this as simple for you as we possibly can Dear One.

Forgiveness has absolutely, positively, nothing what so ever to do with them.

It is simply the act of releasing your connection to something that no longer serves you,  releasing your bond with something that you no longer want to remain connected to.

It is letting go of the rope, removing your hand from the hot stove, exiting the burning building.

You are so keenly aware of, and easily accept the fact Dear One, that what you eat, contributes significantly to how you feel, and to the health and well-being of your physical body.

But did you know that who you spend time with, the people that you interact with, the company that you keep, has exactly the same impact on your energetic body?

If you could become just as aware and selective of your social consumption as you are of your physical consumption Dear One, it would not take long before your energetic body would restore, regenerate, and strengthen itself in much the same way that your physical body does when it is well cared for.

If you want to live a different life Dear One, if you want to live the life of your dreams, you can. But you should know that it will come at a cost.  Sacrifices are going to have to be made.

You are going to have to sacrifice the old vision that you have had of yourself, the old story that you have been telling about yourself, the old limitations that you have been holding onto, the old patterns that you have been maintaining, the old heartaches that you have been nursing, the old hurts that you have been hanging on to.

Will it be difficult?

It could be.

Will it be worth it?

There is only way to know for sure!

Sometime healing does not require a new herb, potion, tonics or pill Dear One.  Sometimes it does not require a new way of thinking, moving, eating, or behaving. Sometimes it does not require a new mantra, meditation, massage or treatment.  Sometimes it doesn’t even require compassion, understanding, insight or forgiveness.

Sometimes Dear One, the only thing that is required to heal, is rest.

So, before you go off in search of a new answer, a new technique, a new practice, a new method, a new plan for healing your body, for healing your life, why not give resting a try instead.

Make a commitment, to sleep, for the whole night, every single night, for one week, and see how you feel.

Don’t make excuses about why this can’t happen Dear One, just make sure that it does

No matter how badly you feel, no matter how badly you made them feel, no matter how much you punish yourself, or those around you, regret will not solve, fix, change or improve anything for the better, Dear One.

It never has and it never will.

Regret won’t help you or them to forget, forgive, connect, improve, repair, restore, heal, or move on.

But forgiveness will – hope will – courage will – faith will – strength, love, kindness, and compassion will.