What do you think would happen Dear One, if as an alternative to digging in, tensing up, shutting down, or pinching yourself off from well-being in anger, frustration, fear, hopelessness, or self-righteousness when facing a conflict, you relaxed, trusted, let go, accepted what was, and allowed yourself to open up to it instead?

If you don’t already know the answer, why not try it and find out?

Do you want to know where you should start Dear One?

Start by getting happy.

And if getting happy feels like to big of a step for you, then start with a thought that makes you smile.

But before you take one more step, before you make one more decision, before you move forward in any direction, do something, anything, big or small, that brings joy to your heart and puts a smile on your face.

Any action taken from a place of joy, a place of hope, a place that feels good to you, will always yield you far better and more productive results than any taken from a place of fear, frustration, distrust, hesitance, anger, concern, guilt, stress, sadness or grief.

So,when in doubt Dear One, when you are unsure of what it is that you need to do next, remember that joy is always a great place to begin.

Where you are going matters so much more than where you have been Dear One.

There is no force in the universe that is strong enough to change you Dear One, if you are not ready to change yourself.

But once you decide that you are, there is no force strong enough to stop you.

You mustn’t let a fear of rejection stop you from following your heart Dear One.

Rejection will not kill you.

We promise you that.

But repression just might, if you make a habit of it.

Do you want to know how you can be sure that you are always making the wise choice Dear One?

We’ll tell you.

• The wise choice is never going to be the angry choice.
• The wise choice is never going to be the desperate choice.
• The wise is never going to be the fearful, insecure, jealous, vengeful, or spiteful choice.
• And it is most definitely not ever going to be the malicious, resigned, manipulative, or controlling choice either.

So, if you are trying to figure out what the wise choice is Dear One, and the choice you are about to make comes close to resembling any of the above, know that you have not found it yet.

When you create peacefully Dear One, you are creating peace, you are attracting peacefulness to you, you are in the process of manifesting peaceful people, events, and circumstances into your life.

When you create from a place of stress, from a place of agitation, desperation, pessimism or fear, you are engaging in the process of manifesting into your life people, events, and circumstances that will bring you more of the same.

Create consciously Dear One, create with love, with excitement, with confidence and hope, and guess what it is that you are going to get more of as a result?

Creation is not just about creating Dear One; it is not just about the actions that you take to get something done.

There is so much more to it than that.

How you feel while you are doing it matters, so pay attention.

You should forgive yourself Dear One, quickly, completely, and as often as you possibly can, for everything that you’ve ever done. Especially those things that you just can’t seem to forgive yourself for.

Why?

Because it is the only way that way that you will ever be able to learn from it, grown from it, or do something valuable with the experience of it, and move forward in a better direction.

That does not mean that we are encouraging you to disregard, overlook, belittle, ignore, or dismiss any negative, hurtful, harmful, thoughtless or destructive behavior you may have engaged in or contributed to.

It means that we want you to recognize that the fact that you are aware that you have not forgiven yourself, that you are are in need of forgiveness, is an acknowledgement of a wrongdoing, an acknowledgement that you could have done better, that a better choice, a more preferred choice was available to you.

If you did not see a need to forgive at all, that would mean that you did not, could not or most likely would not choose to differently next time.

But if you did see a need to forgive yourself Dear One, and acknowledged that recognition as a confirmation that you now know better than you did before, that you could now do better, choose better, but still decided not to…

Well, what a waste that would be.

Just how powerful are you Dear one?

Just how much are you capable of?

That is something that only you can decide.

It’s not love that is causing your pain Dear One.

Love doesn’t hurt.

It is your worry that it won’t be returned, your fear of losing it, your expectations of it, your perceived shortage of it, your desire to control it, and your lack of faith in it that is the source of your discomfort.

So rest assured Dear One, regardless of what you may think or what you have been told, love is most definitely not the problem.

So feel free to open yourself up to it, experience it, accept it, give it away and indulge in it as often and deeply as you possibly can.