If you don’t feel good about the decisions you make yesterday Dear One, if you are unhappy with the choices that you made, know that you don’t have to regret them.  You can choose to accept them, learn from them and choose differently today instead if you would like.

No matter how badly you feel, no matter how badly you made them feel, no matter how much you punish yourself, or those around you, regret will not solve, fix, change or improve anything in any way, shape, or form.

It never has and it never will.

Regret won’t help you or them to forget, forgive, connect, improve, repair, restore, heal or move on Dear One.

But forgiveness will – change will – hope will – courage will – faith will – strength, love, kindness, and compassion will.

What you believe Dear One, is so much more important than what is.

In fact, it is the most important thing that there is.

In this moment Dear One, you have the ability to make a different choice, to have a different experience.

You can choose to love a little more and judge a little less, to forgive, to be kind, to show compassion, to stand up for yourself, to walk away, to be brave, to take a risk, to let them in, or let them go.

Now, in this moment –  you can choose to be confident – you can choose to take care of yourself – you can choose to impact the lives of others – you can choose to trust and try and trust and try again.

So, what’s it going to be?

Choosing to hold on Dear One, just may be the choice that is responsible for holding you back.

Don’t try to make your life bigger and better Dear One.

Trust, let go, connect, find any excuse that you can to feel good, and allow it to expand instead.

Doing it this way requires far less effort and will yield you far better results.

Try it and see.!

Imagine if you can for a minute Dear One, things exactly as you want them to be.

Imagine having everything that you want, having everything that you need, having every single thing that you desire for yourself, and then some.

Are you doing it? Are you picturing it? Are you imagining what that would look like, feel like, and be like for you?

Is the thought making you smile?

Good. Keep it up.

Raging, fearing, criticizing or whining about what is Dear One, is about as useful as shaking your fist at the rain during a rainstorm is.

No matter how much effort you exert, no matter how much you wish it wasn’t so, no matter how unjust you think it might be, there is really nothing that you can do to stop the water from falling from the sky.

But what you can do is choose how you are going to react to it.

You can stay inside if you want to. You can go outside with an umbrella, a rain coat, rubber boots, or all three. You can run around the block without your clothes on, or you can choose to go out in your favorite suede coat. You can dance in a puddle or take a walk with a lightening rod.

You can’t stop the rain Dear One, but you can choose how you are going to experience it.

Everyone around you holds the potential to be your next teacher Dear One.

Yes, everyone.

Every single person that crosses your path has something teach you.

But here is the thing.

The value, the importance, the significance, the quality, the impact of the lessons that they have to share has very little to do with their ability to teach and everything to do with how good of a student you decide that you are going to be.

It’s time to start enjoying yourself and your life more Dear One, and to stop putting so much effort into trying to please everyone around you, especially at the expense of your own happiness.

Today, do things that bring you joy, that make you smile, that make you feel good about yourself, and you will be in a far greater position to please those around you then you would be if you sacrificed your own well-being for theirs.

If you are not happy yourself Dear One, what could you possibly have to offer anyone else that would be of any real value to them anyway?