When it comes to determining your self-worth, your intrinsic value, your perception of yourself Dear One, all that really matters, all that will ever really matter is what you think of you, is your opinion of yourself.

You can ask them what they think, you can listen to what they have to say, you can try to ascertain their opinion by how they treat you, but we don’t think that it is going to be of much help to you.  Because in reality, what they think of you will only ever matter to you if you agree with them.

We’ll show you what we mean.

We know that you are amazing Dear One, that you are divine, that you are a creative, powerful, and wise soul capable of doing, being or having anything that you want in this life.

And we also know that our telling you this will mean very little to you if you don’t, on some level, already believe us.

You see Dear One, we can understand why you would want to know, why you would want to ask them, why you would want to try and figure it out, but the truth is that their opinion of you really is a meaningless quantifier of who you are and what you are capable of.

So we will say it again, when it comes to determining your self-worth, all that  matters, all that will ever really matter is what you think of you, is your opinion of yourself.

So, what do you think of you?

Do you want to know who is responsible for it all Dear One, for every single experience, good, bad and indifferent, that you have in this life?

We’ll tell you.

You are.

Always have been. Always will be

And the sooner that you are able to accept this, the happier you will be.

Why?

Because you will have just eliminated the experience of blame from your life forever.

• Don’t worry that you have missed out Dear One.
• Don’t worry that you made the wrong choice, waited too long, or missed the boat.
• You have not. You did not. You can not.

Do you know what the universal force is that dictates the experiences, people, and relationships that you are and are not meant to have in your life?

You are it!

If it didn’t happen, if you didn’t choose it, then it was not meant to be.  It’s just that simple.

So don’t worry, regret or fret over that which was not Dear One.

Instead enjoy, give your attention to, celebrate that which was, that which is, instead.

And if you should find yourself in the all too common situation where you have made a choice that you are not enjoying – accept it, learn from it, and choose again.

You don’t have to make a choice in the moment for the rest of your life Dear One.

It just isn’t necessary or possible actually.

All you can do, the very best that you will ever be able to do is make a choice in this moment, for this moment.

That is the only thing that matters, that is the only thing that is real, that is the only thing that will ever be real – your experience in the here and now.

Does knowing that make your decision any easier?

It should.

How long will it take to change Dear One?

That depends.

• How long are you planning to continue to hold on to what is?
• How long are you planning to continue to remain stagnant, motivated by fear, insecurity, doubt, and uncertainty?
• How long are you planning to continue to think that experiencing well-being requires great effort?
• How long are you planning to continue to not trust?
• How long are you planning to continue to hold on to the idea that change is hard?

How long will it take for you to change Dear One?

You tell us.

• There is no honor in doing that which you do not believe in.
• There is no honor in pretending to care when you do not.
• There is no honor in deceiving someone simply to avoid confrontation.

Do you really want to do the honorable thing Dear One?

Then honor yourself and them with your choices.

Be honest.  Be compassionate. Be loving.

And most importantly, speak from your heart.

Sometimes the most useful thing you can do Dear One, to be of service to them, is to take really good care of yourself, to honor yourself, to nurture yourself, to prioritize yourself, to enjoy yourself, to shine, and show them how it’s done.

You can choose to be your stories greatest victor Dear One, or its most tragic victim.

The pen is in your hand.

What’s it going to be?

Write yourself well.

If with one hand you are reaching back Dear One, holding on to things in your past, and with the other you are reaching out ahead of you, holding on to a vision of your future, is it any wonder that you feel like you are being stretched too thin in the here and now?

You should know, that which is for your greatest good, is and will always be, in the present moment.

The tradition of joining both hands together at your heart for prayer, for meditation, for your daily practice, is meant to be a reminder of this for you.

Be. Here. Now.