Think about what motivates your own poor, rash, unkind, thoughtless, inconsiderate, impulsive, fearful, or aggressive behavior Dear One.

Is it an intentional desire to hurt, upset, inconvenience, distress, or disrespect those around you, or is it something else?

Just something to think about before you take their words, actions, attitudes, or behaviors to heart.

The absolute worst thing in the world that you can do for or to yourself or anyone else Dear One, is something that you believe is wrong.

You are here for the pleasure of it Dear One.

It’s just that simple.

Direct your energy consciously Dear One, and it will go where you send it.

You will always pretty much know in what direction it is headed, and it is unlikely that you will ever be completely surprised when it gets there.

(Excited, yes! Pleased, absolutely! Overjoyed, of course! But totally surprised, probably not.)

But stop paying attention, and hand the reigns over to your unconscious self and let it do the driving, and you can pretty much guarantee that you will always be surprised by where your energy ends up.

If that destination is a good surprise for you, fantastic! That means that your unconscious self is serving you well.

However if the destination is not a good surprise, if you are finding yourself on the receiving end of something that you did not request, that is not desired in any way, shape or form, well then you’ve got some work to do.

But you’ve also got a very useful piece of information in your hands Dear One, a confirmation that you are not paying as close attention as you could be to how you are directing and flowing your energy.

And unlike an unwelcome surprise that has already found its way to your doorstep, that is something that you absolutely can do something about.

Are you ready to put a permanent end to you worrying about making mistakes?

If you really are – then read on.

There are no mistakes Dear One. There are only experiences. 

You’ve truly got nothing to worry about.

You can’t force change Dear One, upon yourself or anyone else.

You (they) will change only when you (they) are inspired to do so. When you (they) believe that doing so will be to your (their) greatest advantage, to your (their) greatest benefit.

That is why people can and do endure the pain, discomfort and effort that can sometimes accompany change.

Not because they like it, not because they enjoy it, not because it is easy for them, not because they believe that they should or have something to prove.

They do it Dear One, because they know that doing so is going to serve them.

Enduring pain and discomfort on an inspired path to change is an empowering and joyful experience. It builds strength, endurance, and confidence.

Enduring pain and discomfort in the name of change when it is forced upon you, by yourself or by someone else, without a solid belief or knowing that it is for your greatest good, is a depleting experience . It only serves to weaken you, frustrate you, discourage you, and contribute to greater imbalance in your life.

That Dear One, is why change can’t be forced.

If you are feeling badly for them Dear One, if you are feeling sad for them, if you are hurting for them, feeling their pain, and wanting desperately to help in any way that you possibly can, our advice to you is this – DON’T.

Don’t try to fix it. Don’t try to make it all better. Don’t start looking for answers. Don’t try to come up with brilliant solutions.

Here’s what you should do instead.

Focus on feeling good. Focus on feeling better. Focus on whatever it is that you need to focus on to release your sadness for them and come back into alignment with your higher self, with your confident self, with your all knowing, joyous self.

Once you do that Dear One, then, and only then will you be in a position to be able to help in any meaningful way, and not a moment before.

• Imagine

• Enjoy

• Trust

• Choose / Act

• Allow

• Appreciate

• Repeat, as often as you possibly can Dear One.

How you feel is rarely the issue Dear One. Your feelings are not the problem.

Issues, problems, challenges, troubles do not arise from having feelings.

They arise Dear One, when you respond poorly to them.

Can you appreciate the difference?

Having bad feelings is not a valid excuse for making bad choices.

Remember that the next time that you are feeling badly and you just may save yourself and those around from a world of unnecessary hurt.

The universe has no ego Dear One, unlike you.

It has no emotional, social, or financial agenda for your life either, unlike you.

The universe just tells it like it is.

You live your life, you make choices, you feel, you create, you vibrate, you send your energy out into the world, and the universe reflects it back to you.

And it does so objectively, with no judgments, no distortions, no illusions, and no pre-set expectations.

The best way to definitively know how you are flowing your energy Dear One, is not by being conscious of the way that you feel while you are flowing it, while you are putting it out there (although that is important) – it is by being conscious of what you see and the way that you feel when the universe reflects it back to you.