Why choose to doubt yourself, punish yourself, criticize yourself, or limit yourself Dear One, when you can choose to love yourself, forgive yourself, have confidence in yourself, or be generous with yourself instead?

Just something to think about.

You should know that it is perfectly okay for you to choose to indulge in a pity party from time to time Dear One, if that is what you genuinely feel you need to do.

But just remember, that every minute that you choose to invest in feeling sorry yourself, is a minute that you are not investing in doing something more productive, positive, or pleasurable for yourself that just might make you feel better.

Have your party if need to.  Just don’t stay too long, okay?

What matters most to you in this life Dear One?

What did you spend the majority of your time, energy, attention, and awareness focused on achieving, creating, accomplishing, growing, advancing, or mastering yesterday?

What are you planning on spending the majority of your time, energy, attention and awareness on today?

Do you see where we are going with this?

Your opinion of you may change from day to day Dear One, based on how you feel, how you look, what you think, what you’ve done (or didn’t do), how you loved, what words you used, what you ate, how well you performed, etc.

Some day’s you will feel more worthy of love, and some days you will feel less.

But you should know Dear One, that no matter what, our opinion of you will never change.

Through our eyes, you will always be divine.  Through our eyes, you will always be sacred. Through our eyes you will always be worthy.

So, the next time you are in doubt, the next time you are trying to figure out whether or not you are worthy, of love, of respect, of compassion, of forgiveness, and you are in need of a second opinion, please remember take a minute, and ask for ours.

What you believe is so much more important than what is Dear One.

Remember that today.

You’ll never be able to control what they think of you Dear One, so you can stop wasting your time and energy trying.

But, will always have complete and total control over what you think of you, which is all that will ever really matter anyway.

Feel better?

If not, start exercising some of that control of yours until you do.

Love does not hurt Dear One.

If you are hurting, if you are feeling badly, if you are feeling rejected, alone, abused, afraid, or isolated, then you can be absolutely certain that what you are feeling, that what you are focusing on, is not love.

It is something else.

If love is what you want to be feeling, if love is what you want to be experiencing at this point in time, you are going to have to choose to focus your attention elsewhere.

If at the end of the day Dear One, the only thing that you have accomplished, the only thing that you have to show for all of your effort, is the fact that you didn’t quit, that you didn’t give up, you should smile, feel proud, and congratulate yourself on a job well done, because you would have just accomplished more than most.

Do you want to know how you can be sure that you are making the wise choice Dear One?

We’ll tell you.

The wise choice is never going to be the angry choice.  And it is never going to be the desperate choice either.  Also, you should know, that the wise choice is never going to be the fearful choice, or the insecure choice, or the jealous, vengeful, or spiteful choice.  And it will most definitely not ever be the malicious choice, the resigned choice, the manipulative choice, or the like.

So, if you are trying to figure out what the wise choice is Dear One, know that if the choice you are about to make, resembles any of the above, you have not found it yet.

Why?

Figuring out the answer to this question is not always going to serve you in a useful and positive way Dear One.  In fact, it rarely ever will.

What now?

But figuring out the answer to this question, will always be useful to you.

If what you are in need of is useful answers Dear One, remember that the only way that you are ever going to find them, is by asking useful questions.