You’ll never really know what it’s like to be totally and completely alone, Dear One.

None of us will – ever. Not you and not we.

We are all connected. We are all one and the same — physical and spirit.  We simply exist on different planes of reality from one another.  And quite clearly even that can not keep us apart.

• You can choose to tell yourself a story of isolation and disconnection if you would like
• Or you can choose to feel the connection that you have with all things at all times

That decision is entirely yours.

But of all things that you think you have to be fearful of  in this life, Dear One, being alone should not be one of them – because the truth is, it’s just not possible.

You don’t have to fight the brewing storm, Dear One, or fear it, run from it or hide from it.

There is another option you know.

You can simply allow it to come, and trust yourself enough to know that you can handle it, whatever it may be.

Truth is, your opinion of it, your feelings about it, your actions towards it, your awareness of it, are all feeding it, are all adding to it, are all attaching you to it.

If you are giving your attention to it, you are making a contribution to it.  So we would like for you to choose with great intention what you would like that contribution to be.

You can speed it up or slow it down,  you make can make it stronger and more fierce or kinder and gentler, or you can add levity, compassion, calm and peacefulness, or you can add anger, fear, confusion, and angst.  You can even turn it around, or stop it all together.

And before you ask, yes, you are that powerful.

Being a good friend, Dear One, does not require you to lay down, and fill the gaps, so they can tread across you to get to where they think they need to go.

Being a good friend is showing up as the best version of yourself to give them something meaningful, powerful, authentic, honorable, and loving to connect with.

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Do you want to know how to find someone who “gets you”, Dear One?
Do you want to know what you need to do to surround yourself with more people who really “get” who you are?

We’ll tell you.

Don’t go in search of them. Don’t exert a great amount of time, energy and effort seeking them out.  There is no need.

Just be yourself.  Reveal more of yourself, of who you really are to the world around you and all of the people in it, in everything that you do, as often as you possibly can, and they will find you!

Its time to start enjoying yourself/enjoying life more, Dear One, and stop putting so much effort into trying to please those around you, especially at the expense of your own happiness.

Do things that bring you joy, that make you smile, that make you happy, and you will be in a far greater position to please those around you then you would be when you sacrifice your own well being for theirs.

If you are not happy yourself, Dear One, what could you possibly have to offer anyone else that would be of any real value to them anyway?

The energy, action, and effort required to jump a hurdle, cross a barrier, or break down a wall, Dear One, is not the same energy, action, and effort required once you are on the other side of it.

Once you make it over, across, or through, remember to stop jumping, pushing, and swinging for a little while, and enjoy the place where you now find yourself.

Once you are on the other side, it is time for you to relax, allow, and go the flow of the new space you have just crossed into.

It is of absolutely no benefit to you, Dear One, to keep jumping once you are in the clear.

You can never undo that which has been done, Dear One.

It’s impossible.

So please don’t waste your precious time and energy trying.

Once you have had an experience, for better or for worse, it is yours forever.

And regardless of how deeply you wish it could be so, no amount of regret, guilt, remorse, anger, self-pity, self-loathing, sadness, or hatred is ever going to change that.

But know this, that you are never without options, that there is always something that you can do.

It is always within your power, Dear One, to change the way that you feel about it, to change what it means to you, to change its significance in your life.

And changing that, changes everything.

No amount of logical thinking or logical action can turn around that which you are feeling, Dear One, so don’t waste your time trying.  Logic, has very little to do with what is, with what has happened, with how you are feeling.

Your emotional response is exactly as you would expect it to be considering all that has happened.

Logic can be a very useful tool for narrowing down choices or dictating limitations.  But now is not the time for limitations or for limited thinking. Now is not the time for you to be practicing your logic.

Now is the time for you to be practicing something larger, something that will serve you, that will serve all of you, without limitations.  Now is the time for you to be practicing faith, compassion,  patience, acceptance of what is, generosity of spirit, forgiveness, tolerance, and giving and receiving love.

Today, Dear One, is not a day for logic.

Your victories are YOUR victories, Dear One.
Celebrate them, each and every one, no matter how big or small.

Don’t compare them to someone else’s first; before you decide if they are worthy of celebration.

Especially not to those who don’t share your values; to those who may not find valuable those things that YOUR heart values most.

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You are not lost, damaged or irreparably broken, Dear One.  You have not traveled so far off course that you need to be concerned that you will not be able to find your way back.

We want to assure you that there is nothing fundamentally wrong with you – you are not out of order – you do not need to be “fixed”.  (Although we can understand why it is that you might be feeling that way)

When you stop prioritizing those things in your life that bring you the greatest amount of joy, healing, comfort, support, relief, satisfaction or pleasure – it should be of no surprise that you are left not feeling your best.

But you don’t need to worry about it.  You simply need to decide to start choosing differently!

And once you do, we think you will be pleasantly surprised to discover just how quickly things can snap right back into place.