Asking “Why” won’t change anything, Dear One.

But taking (inspired) action will.

Sometimes the best solution to a problem, Dear One, is to simply allow yourself to forget that it exists at all.

Give all of your attention to that which is wanted, to that which is desired, to that which makes you feel good, great, or giddy with delight and let all of the rest fade away.

When you do, you will discover that one of two things will happen:

1. That once you’ve move on from it, once you’ve let it go, that your problem too will let go of you.
2. That all that you need to solve it, that the solution that you have been looking for, will be there waiting for you when you arrive in that better feeling place.

If you want to experience real change in your life, Dear One, change.

Make a different choice, take a different route, try a different approach, eat a different breakfast.

If you don’t know how to do that, if you don’t know what to change to make things better, ask for help.

If you don’t know who to ask, if you don’t know who to turn to, ask us, through prayer, mediation, a walk in the woods, or even email.  Whatever works best for you.

Then once you’ve asked, listen, with your heart, for the answer, knowing that it may not come from the one you asked, but that it most definitely will come.

And know this, Dear One, that no matter the circumstance, if you are ready to choose it, change is always available to you.

Why do their feelings about you impact you so, Dear One?  Why does their emotional state, what they feel and think about you have so much effect on you?

That’s easy.

The reason that their feelings towards you distress you, hurt you, worry you, upset you so much is because you believe that you are lacking in some way, Dear One, that you are lacking something that you can only get from them.

But the truth of it is, Dear One, that that there is nothing that you can get from anyone else that you can not get, attract, acquire, or create on your own.  The truth of it is that you are not beholden to anyone, for anything.

No one can give or take anything from you.  The idea that you have in your mind that they can is simply an illusion.  You and you alone are in control, are responsible for what you allow into your life, into your experience, and what you keep out of it.

They are nothing more than a mirror, Dear One, reflecting back to you your belief of that which you believe you are worthy of receiving and that which you believe you are not.

Make sense?

THEM or ME
How do you decide, Dear One?

To begin with, you start by first recognizing that this is not actually the right question to be asking.

Those are not actually the two options that you are choosing between when you are struggling to figure out which is more important in the moment; taking care of their needs, or taking care of your own.

It is not actually a choice between Them or Me that you are trying to make.

It is a choice between Me or Not Me.

And if you want to know which is the right choice, which choice will always serve THE greatest good, which choice will always serve YOUR greatest good, (which are both always one and the same) we will tell you.

It will always be to choose ME.

Because choosing Not Me can never serve the whole in any positive way.

P.S.
Making this choice has absolutely nothing whatsoever to do with being selfish.

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Fear does not heal, Dear One.

But faith does.

You don’t have to fight the brewing storm, Dear One, or fear it, run from it or hide from it.

There is another option you know.

You can simply allow it to come, and trust yourself enough to know that you can handle it, whatever it may be.

Truth is, your opinion of it, your feelings about it, your actions towards it, your awareness of it, are all feeding it, are all adding to it, are all attaching you to it.

If you are giving your attention to it, you are making a contribution to it.  So we would like for you to choose with great intention what you would like that contribution to be.

You can speed it up or slow it down,  you make can make it stronger and more fierce or kinder and gentler, or you can add levity, compassion, calm and peacefulness, or you can add anger, fear, confusion, and angst.  You can even turn it around, or stop it all together.

And before you ask, yes, you are that powerful.

Choose to love yourself first, Dear One, and show them how it’s done.

We can think of no more powerful gift that you could give them today then to help them to know the experience, the joy, the potential, the pleasure of self-love/self-care.

There are no mistakes, Dear One, only choices.

And you are the only one that can decide how you are going to judge the impact of those choices on your life – was it good or bad; helpful or hurtful; educational or a waste of time; motivational or a reason to give up.

Judge wisely, Dear One.  Because whatever it is that you choose, will become reality for you.

Remember, Dear One, that regardless of how scared, chaotic, lost, or out of control you feel, that the world feels right now, your center, your home,  is only one slow, deep breath away.

And we are there.

Always.