The root of your insecurity is not your height, Dear One. And it is not your weight, hair, job or clothes either. It is not how you were raised, how much money you have, where you grew up, where you live now, or how much you think you are loved. It is not your siblings, your spouse or ex-best friend, and it is most definitely not your mother.

The root of your insecurity, Dear One, is your head.

You head will tell you stories. It will tell you that something is wrong when it is not, that something is missing when it is well within your reach, or that something is about to disappear that is rightfully yours forever. It will tell you that if you are not careful, if you do pay attention and play by the rules that you could lose all that you have, never get all that you want, and end up with everything that you fear and despise.

Do you want to know how to put an end to it, and rid yourself of all of your insecure thoughts once and for all?

The next time you are looking for the truth, Dear One, about your value, your worth, your beauty, your ability, your potential, or your importance in this world, turn to your heart instead of your head for the answer.

And then trust what it tells you.

It is so much easier to make a decision, Dear One, when you are clear on what it is that you want, on what direction it is that you want to be moving.

Choosing is not meant to be a guessing game.

So, if you are stuck, if you are unclear as to what choice you want to make next, what action you want to take next, how you want to respond, here are a few simple questions that may make it easier for you to decide.

Ask yourself, in this moment:

• Do you want to love more or less?
• Do you want to trust more or less?
• Do you want to connect more or less?
• Do you want to be more or less compassionate?
• Do you want to be more or less brave?
• Do you want to be more or less creative?
• Do you want to be more or less confident?
• Do you want to be more or less trustworthy?

Are you ready to choose now, Dear One?

Not now, not then, not ever, Dear One, will you ever be in a position where your options, your choices, your possibilities, are controlled, dictated, or determined by anyone other than yourself, at least not without your permission.

Please try to remember that the next time you look around and find yourself feeling as though your options are limited.

Honor yourself and acknowledge your own divinity, with every thought, with every word, with every choice, with every action and with every interaction that you have today, Dear One.

Why?

Because you are deserving of nothing less.

To reclaim control of your life, Dear One, simply reclaim it, one decision at a time.

Sometimes the answer really can be that simple.

Take note — we’ve said simple, not easy.

[NOTE TO SELF]

Remember, Dear One, that regardless of how scared, chaotic, lost, or out of control you feel, that the world feels right now, your center, your home,  is only one slow, deep breath away.

And we are there.

Always.

You have no obligation to anyone, Dear one, that will ever be more important than your obligation to yourself.

People make mistakes, Dear One (yourself included).  It happens.

Berating them for it, making them feel badly about it, attempting to scold or punish them for it, is not going to help, fix, or undo it,  is not going serve anyone or anything in any positive way.

Bitching, complaining, ranting, raving, and acting out, while it may feel good and appropriate in the moment, will not help them or you to turn things around, or improve the situation at all.

But, focusing your attention and energy on the desired outcome, on identifying a solution, on making things better, on how to improve things from here,  will.

If you are going to do this, Dear One, if you have made up your mind that you are ready to change, to grow, to embrace something new, to discover what’s next, to expand what you know, to move on from where you are now, you might as well go all the way. Right?

Opening yourself up, opening up your eyes, your heart, your mind, your awareness, your consciousness, your perspective, to a big picture, to the larger reality that you are a part of, is only half of the equation.

Letting go is the other.

Don’t stop now, Dear One.

You’re halfway there.