Just in case you were wondering, Dear One, the antidote to conflict is acceptance.

Complete and total acceptance.

Not approval.  Not agreement.  Not compromise.  Not settling.  Not accommodating.  Not pretending.  Not lying.  Not cheating. Not faking it.  And most definitely not resignation.

If you want to diffuse a conflict, Dear One, accept what is, exactly as it is, for exactly what it is, as quickly as you possibly can.

And once you do, once you stop pushing, resisting, railing against what is, once you let go of the emotional charge that conflict brings to a situation, then, and only then, will you be in a position (a very powerful one actually) to make a thoughtful, rational, intentional, and heartfelt decision about what you are going to do next.

You have a unique opportunity available to you today, Dear One, that will not be available to you tomorrow.

Today, you have the opportunity to make THIS day unforgettable.

• You can make it the day that you risked it all, or the day that you that you played it safe.
• You can make it the day that you finally spoke up, spoke your truth, or the day that you remained silent.
• You can make it the day that you gave up, or the day that you asked for help.
• You can make it the day that you changed your life, or the day that you remained the same.

This opportunity will not be available to you tomorrow, Dear One.

So you better take advantage of it, while you still can.

How do you achieve mastery of your own heart, Dear One?

You trust it.

If your goal is to prolong your suffering. Dear One, to make it worse, add to it, to expand upon it, and invite as many people as you possible can to join you in it, then by all means keep talking about it, beating yourself up about it, focusing on it, and judging yourself harshly for whatever it is that you believe that you have done or have had done to you.

But, if what you desire is to let it go, heal from it, improve upon it, distance yourself from it, change it for the better, move past it, and in every way possible, get over it as quickly as you possibly can, then you’re going to want to choose positive, loving, compassionate, hopeful and enthusiastic thoughts, feelings, and behaviors instead.

Do you want to know the fastest way to get from where you are to where you want to be, Dear One?

Slow down.

Practice patience.

The more focused and centered you are, the more clarity you have, the more intentional your actions, the better you feel, the more effective you will be.

It is hard to feel good, grounded, centered, focused, and move with intention when you are stressed, frustrated, hurried, and rushing.

Practice patience Dear One, move with joy, clarity, and intention rather than speed, and watch as the distance between where you are and where you want to be shrinks at the speed of thought.

Do you want to know how you turns things around, Dear One, how you get it to stop feeling like things are spinning out of control?

We’ll tell you.

Remember that you are the creator of your world. Remember that you are the one in charge, the one deciding, choosing, attracting, and manifesting all that you’ve got, all that you are experiencing, all that is headed your way.

If you want to slow things down, slow them down, if you want to speed things up, speed them up, if you want more or less, bigger or smaller, lighter or darker, (you get the idea) create it, choose it, make it so.  It’s just that simple.

How?

Stop reacting and start creating.

Align your thoughts, energy, words, deeds, and beliefs with what you want, Dear One, instead of with what is, and you’ll see what we are talking about.

Forgiveness isn’t about condoning, accepting, forgetting, or dismissing their poor behavior, hurtful words, or damaging actions, Dear One.

It is about making a choice to prioritize yourself, your health, your happiness, and your well-being, over your pain.

Your reality is fluid, Dear One. It molds itself quite readily and precisely around the shape of your beliefs.

When we say to you that it is all in your head, we are most definitely not saying to you that it isn’t real.

Quite the contrary actually.

What we are saying in fact is that if it is in your head, Dear One, it will undoubtedly be a part of your reality in the very near future.

Your mind is a powerful creator, so it is important for you to remember that it will always be in your best interest to remain mindful of what you keep in there at all times.

You are feeling a strong desire for change, Dear One; how you look, how you feel, what you do, how you live, what you have, who you love, who loves you, and so on.

And you are uncomfortable with it. You are unsure of how exactly you want to change, and what exactly you want to change into, and how you are going to make all of this change happen. And you want to make the discomfort stop.

But to relieve the stress, the unease that accompanies not knowing, the frustration that comes with not having, the self-loathing that comes with feeling unworthy or undeserving or unprepared, the answer is not to stop wanting, to stop trying, to stop moving forward in an effort to avoid confronting the distress.

The answer is in fact, to do the exact opposite of that.  The answer is to embrace the change, and embrace the lack of clarity, discomfort, uncertainty, and insecurity that comes with it.

Because stopping, turning back, giving up, or running away is never going to get you to where you want to go.  But moving forward just might.

And the truth is that both directions, forwards and back, hold the potential for discomfort, equally.  It is unavoidable, nearly impossible to escape the feeling all together.

So the question that you really want to be asking, when it comes to dealing with the discomfort of change, Dear One, is not, How can you avoid it or make it stop, but….  Do you want to confront, deal with, and work through the discomfort while you are moving forwards, backwards, or standing still?

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Tell the truth, Dear one. Be honest.

Not because it is the right thing to do.  Not because you think you should.  Not because doing so will bring you closer to the divine.  Not because someone is keeping score.  (We can assure you, they are not.)

We encourage to you tell the truth, Dear One because it feels good to do so – because doing so feels better than not doing so.  We encourage honesty because of the way it makes you feel, because it allows you to live a more open, genuine, authentic life.  Because it allows you to feel brave, worthy, honorable and at ease with yourself.

We want you to tell the truth, Dear One not because it serves us or the greater good or your fellow man for you to do so, but simply because it serves you to do so.