The people, circumstances, events, and relationships in your life are not the problem Dear One.

It is your reaction to them, your expectations of them, your behavior towards them, and your beliefs about them, that is the cause of most of your discontent.

Isn’t that wonderful news?

You don’t have to wait, hope, push, or pray for them to change in order for things to get better.

You can change you, and make things better right now!

Why choose to doubt yourself, punish yourself, be hard on yourself, judge yourself, or skimp on yourself Dear One, when you can choose to comfort yourself, forgive yourself, have confidence in yourself,  be generous with yourself, and love yourself instead?

The path of least resistance does not lead to sameness Dear One, it leads to change.

How?

We’ll explain.

The world is constantly changing, all the time.  Everything within and around you is always in a state of change.  It is either growing or decaying, without exception.

In each and every moment of your life you are changing too, you are different, you are not the same person, in the same environment that you were the moment before, and therefore do not have the same perspective that you had the moment before.

So therefore while you may think that doing nothing will lead to nothing, will result in everything remaining the same, it is just not true.  The truth Dear One, is actually that if you do nothing, absolutely nothing but allow life to flow and yourself to flow along with it, no moment, no day, no experience in your life will ever be the same, could ever be the same, as the moment before.

Can you see that?

Sameness requires effort. Sameness requires action. Sameness can only happen if you choose to create it, if you choose to do, and be, and say, and think something over and over and over again in an environment of constantly changing conditions.

Get it?

Be generous Dear One, with your spirit, with your gifts, with your heart, in all that you do.  There is no reason for you to hold on to yourself, to hold back  – for you will never run out of you or of any of the wonderful qualities that make you, you.  In fact, the more of yourself that you give away, the quicker you will find yourself restored.  Share your gifts, share yourself.  Allow both to flow freely out into the world.

Remember Dear One, you live in an abundant universe – where there is no lack.

But know that there is a big difference between giving yourself away/giving of yourself and having others take from you.  You will know the difference by how it feels to you because one is restorative and energizing and the other is rather draining.

Take notice of how your energy is flowing – from you, through you, out into the world.

Once you become aware of and can see the difference between giving your energy willingly and having it taken from you, either aggressively or passively, it is our belief that you will at once acquire an awareness of how to protect yourself and prevent the latter from taking place.

Once you learn to see and direct how and where you energy flows, no one or no thing will ever be able to take it from you again without your consent.

The idea of being overwhelmed Dear One, the anticipation of not being able to handle it all, can be far more stressful then the actual stress of completing all of the tasks before you.
Truly.

So what are you meant to do with this piece information?

We’ll tell you.

• Instead of telling yourself “I can’t”, tell yourself “I can”
• Instead of telling yourself “it’s going to be a nightmare”, tell yourself  “everything is going to work out”
• Instead of telling yourself  “I don’t have all the answers”, tell yourself  “I know all of the answers I need will come to me”.

And then take a deep breath, let it go, and believe it.

If you continue to hold on to the belief that you can’t Dear One, that it’s too hard, difficult, or complicated, life will go right on proving to you that you are right.

The best way to take care of your heart Dear One, to strengthen it, and protect it, is to open it, trust it, and use it, as often as you possibly can.

Closing it off, shutting it down, or trying to shelter it from unwanted feelings will only serve to weaken it in the end, cutting you off from your source, leaving you far more vulnerable to hurt, deception, and negativity, than you would be otherwise.

So the next time you are in a situation where you feel like your heart needs protecting, remember, there is only one thing that you need to do; open it wider.

Release your expectations of them Dear One.

Let them follow their bliss, and you follow yours.

Your happiness is not at all dependent on what they choose to do next.

It is solely and completely dependent on what you choose to do next.

And you can choose to say, think, or do anything that you would like.

What more could you possibly want from the moment Dear One, from them, from yourself or from the universe, then the freedom to choose?

And that you’ve got.

So, are you ready to let them off the hook and start choosing for yourself?

When the choices you are committed to don’t seem to be leading you towards a better feeling state Dear One, it may time for you start thinking about making different ones.

People make mistakes Dear One (yourself included).  It happens.

Berating them for it, making them feel badly about it, attempting to scold or punish them for it, is not going to help, fix, or undo it,  is not going serve anyone or anything in any positive way.

Bitching, complaining, ranting, raving, and acting out, while it may feel good and appropriate in the moment, will not help them or you to turn things around, or improve the situation at all. But, focusing your attention and energy on the desired outcome, on identifying a solution, on making things better, on how to improve things from here,  will.