Why do their feelings about you impact you so Dear One?  Why does their emotional state, what they feel and think about you have so much effect on you?

That’s easy.

The reason that their feelings towards you distress you, hurt you, worry you, upset you so much is because you believe that you are lacking in some way Dear One, that you are lacking something that you can only get from them.

But the truth of it is Dear One, that that there is nothing that you can get from anyone else that you can not get, attract, acquire, or create on your own.  The truth of it is that you are not beholden to anyone, for anything.

No one can give or take anything from you.  The idea that you have in your mind that they can is simply an illusion.  You and you alone are in control, are responsible for what you allow into your life, into your experience, and what you keep out of it.

They are nothing more than a mirror Dear One, reflecting back to you your belief of that which you believe you are worthy of receiving and that which you believe you are not.

Make sense?

If it didn’t make you happy yesterday, or the day before that, or the day before that, what makes you think it is going to make you happy today, or tomorrow, or the next day?

Unhappiness is much too high of a price to pay for loyalty Dear One, to a person, idea, concept, community, or belief.

And if you are not happy, you are not really in a position to contribute anything of value, so what function does your loyalty really real serve anyway?

Just something to think about.

You can’t always control your feelings Dear One.

But you can always choose to think a different thought and change them anytime you would like.

Some may call this denying what is.

But we would call it, getting yourself into a better feeling place so that you can more effectively deal with what is.

There is no rule anywhere Dear One, that says that you have to feel badly when dealing with a bad situation.

What you didn’t do then Dear One, is and will always be so much less significant than what you are doing now.

Whenever you get the desire to quit Dear One, to throw in the towel, and give up before the end, ask yourself why it is that you want to do so, before you take any action.

• Is it because quitting will release you from a commitment that no longer serves you? Because it will bring you greater pleasure, joy, freedom, and opportunity to pursue something else that you believe will serve you?

• Is it because quitting will release you from having to do the hard work required to complete a difficult task?  Because it will prevent you from confronting your fears, from facing uncomfortable feelings, from the discomfort of growth and moving beyond that which is familiar to you, that which feels safe, into a place that could lead you to who knows where?

Quit or don’t quit Dear One. That is your choice.  It is not our place to tell you what to do.

But whatever you decide, we just want to make sure that you are aware of your reasons for doing it before you do.

If proof is what you need Dear One, in order to believe, look for it.

There is far from a shortage of it accessible to you at all times.

• Look for proof of abundance, joy, honesty, integrity, kindness, compassion, generosity, well-being, love, and limitless possibility, and you will find it.

• Look for proof of lack, insincerity, dishonesty, deceit, imbalance, deception, greed, selfishness, barriers, and limited opportunities, and you will find it.

Do you see what we are getting at?

To connect or not to connect?

That is the question.

That is a choice that is available to you in each and every moment of each and every day Dear One.

Source, God, spirit, energy, light, life force, prana, Qi, whatever you should choose to call it, is available to you, to all of you, in limitless quantities, equally, at all times, without exception.

The frequency, quality, depth, intensity, and significance of your connection to it has absolutely nothing whatsoever do with us, with it, or with them, and absolutely everything to do with you, and your desire and willingness to connect.

So, what’s it going to be Dear One?

To connect or not to connect?

That is the question.

Now you tell us, what is the answer?

Regardless of where you are Dear One, regardless of what is going on around you, regardless of how you feel, what you look like, what others are saying about you, or what you are saying (or thinking) about yourself, the most powerful thing that you can do for yourself in this moment is something that will make you smile.

If you are looking to create more chaos in your life, Dear One, then here is what you should do:

• Choose to seek out, focus on, talk about, think about, and allow chaotic situations, circumstances, people, events, images and experiences to dominant as much of your time and attention as you possibly can.

The same holds true for creating health, balance, peace, love, laughter, inspiration, abundance, beauty, integrity, truth, compassion, strength, and clarity too.

You can create more of absolutely anything that you want this way.

So, now you know how it’s done!

If you are already running late Dear One, rushing, hurrying, being scattered, frantic, angry, short tempered and stressed out about it, is not going to fix it, undo it, or magically make it better in any way, shape or form.

But calming down, collecting yourself, being grounded, centered, and fully present and aware when you arrive just might.