Did you know that any decision that you make confidently, joyfully, with an open heart, from a good feeling place, regardless of how impetuous or how well thought out it may be, will always bring you closer to that which you are seeking than any made from a place of tension, stress, confusion, turmoil or emotional distress?
It’s true!
Taking good care of yourself does not mean pushing yourself to extremes Dear One, to do all that you want to do, and be all that you want you to be. And it also does not mean sheltering yourself from challenges, protecting yourself from your fears, giving up, quitting, or walking away when things get tough either.
Taking good care of yourself means always remembering to love yourself enough to choose balance, to choose joy, to choose patience and compassion in every moment, knowing that doing so will not inhibit your progress along your path but will actually hasten it.
Don’t curse time for moving too fast Dear One, or for moving too slowly. Don’t blame it for prolonging your pain or cutting short your pleasure.
You are the one in charge of how you choose to experience its passage. You are the one who decides how you are going to spend it. That power always has and always will rest with you, not with time.
Time is a gift Dear One. Not a curse.
Make a choice to experience it intentionally and consciously, with ease, grace and gratitude.
Use it. Enjoy it. Celebrate it. Open yourself up to it.
The experience of it is, after all, one of the biggest reasons you are here.
Don’t allow yourself to be imprisoned by the choices, decisions and promises that you made yesterday Dear One.
Honor yourself and your commitments as they make sense in the moment and don’t allow yourself to be ruled by a past that is already gone or a future that does not yet exist.
If you want to know what’s wrong with the world Dear One, and your response to the anger is anger, to the outrage is outrage, to the violence is violence, and to the hatred is hatred, you should know that regardless of how good your intentions are, that you need not look any further than yourself for the answer.
If someone is not living up to your expectations of them Dear One, instead of being disappointed, instead of trying to change them, instead of trying to fix them, instead of trying to force yourself to not care in order to put an end to your unhappiness, why not simply change your expectation of them instead?
Now, wouldn’t that be easier?
How do you do this?
One conscious choice at a time.
Before you take any action, always remember to ask yourself this:
Will this choice, will this action, will this meal, will this drink, will this purchase, will this person, will this conversation, will this decision, bring me closer to achieving balance in my life or carry me farther away from it?
If you choose to move towards balance Dear One, consciously and intentionally, every time, it will not be long until you are once again experiencing it.
What do you think the chances are that everything will go according to plan today, that everyone will behave exactly as they should, that everywhere you go you will find exactly what you are looking for, and that every new day will better than the one before?
Whatever your answer is Dear One, you’ll be right!
You always have two options available to you at all times Dear One, when dealing with any situation or circumstance:
So, what’s it going to be?
More often than not Dear One, it is not the conflict itself that is the source of you pain, discomfort, anger, frustration, racing heart or sweaty palms.
It is your response to it.
It is your response that determines how you feel, what you think, the story that you tell, the flow of your energy, the focus of your attention, and as a result, the quality of the solutions that will present themselves to you/that you will take notice of.
Don’t dig in, tense up or pinch yourself off from well-being in fear, anger or self righteousness when facing a conflict. Relax, be gentle, open up, trust, let go, and allow yourself to connect, allow your energy to rise up, not sink down, as you seek a resolution.
Choose your response consciously Dear One, with intention and an open heart, and you just might be surprised to discover the source of your conflict dissipating and the circumstances surrounding it rising up to meet you.
All we are asking is for you to try, for you to give it a shot.
After all, what have you got to lose?