Few things in this world are worse for you Dear One, or hold more potential for disaster, than moving forward in fear, than doing something that you truly don’t believe you are capable of or are afraid to do, don’t want to do, or you believe is going to harm you.

Accepting your fears as reality, allowing them to define and restrict you, to tie you up and chain you down to one place, one mindset, one set of limiting beliefs for the rest of your natural-born life, is one of them.

With power comes great responsibility, Dear One.

But you should know that the opposite is also true.

With responsibility comes great power.

The more you take responsibility for your life—your choices, thoughts, words, actions and reactions—and accept that you are the one responsible for creating, attracting, and allowing every experience that you have, the more powerful you will be.

If you want to start feeling better about the decisions that you are making in your life Dear One, we have a suggestion for you:

Only make decisions that you feel good about and stop asking other people what they think about them.

The root of your insecurity is not your height Dear One. And it is not your weight, hair, job or clothes either. It is not how you were raised, how much money you have, where you grew up, where you live now, or how much you think you are loved. It is not your siblings, your spouse or ex-best friend, and it is most definitely not your mother.

The root of your insecurity Dear One, is your head.

You head will tell you stories. It will tell you that something is wrong when it is not, that something is missing when it is well within your reach, or that something is about to disappear that is rightfully yours forever. It will tell you that if you are not careful, if you do pay attention and play by the rules that you could lose all that you have, never get all that you want, and end up with everything that you fear and despise.

Do you want to know how to put an end to it, and rid yourself of all of your insecure thoughts?

Ask your heart Dear One. It will only ever tell you the truth.

Forgive yourself Dear One, for whatever it is.

Why?

Because you can’t beat yourself up and heal, make amends, or move forward and create in any positive or useful way until you do.

That’s why

Celebrate, embrace, and take advantage of the contrasts in your life Dear One, don’t curse them. They are a gift.

Without them you would have absolutely no way of knowing just how far you’ve come or in which direction you were headed.

The idea is not to work yourself to the point of exhaustion Dear One.

The idea is to work yourself to the point of exhilaration.

If you work and work and work and at the end of the day, feel worse than you did than at the beginning, you may want to spend a little time reevaluating what it is that you are really working for, what it is you are really working to create for yourself.

You can choose to believe that you can handle this Dear One, or you can choose to believe that you can’t.

Whatever choice you make, you’ll be right.

Everything that you are wanting Dear One, is available to you in the present moment – joy, health, love, laughter, change, abundance, freedom – all of it.

Choose it in the moment and it will be yours, right now.

Continue to choose it over and over again, and it will be yours forever.

Love is a choice Dear One.

The experience of it, the giving and receiving of it, does not just happen. You have to choose it, you have to choose to open yourself up to it, to allow it.

When two people make the decision to choose to experience it together, to give and receive it openly, freely, and confidently, to open themselves up to an experience of the divine and let love flow to them and through them, that is a sacred act, that is an example of a sacred union; a merging of you, them and the energy of all that is.

A holy man, a place of worship, a ritual, a doctrine, a document or a vow is not the force that makes the union sacred Dear One, you are.