You have no obligation to anyone, Dear one, that will ever be more important than your obligation to yourself.

Yes, Dear One, being in a committed relationship is absolutely essential to living a happy life.

If you are not already in one, we suggest that you get yourself into one ASAP.

We want to see you make an authentic, joyful, loving, passionate, compassionate, forgiving, life long commitment to someone.

Yourself.

It will be the most important, sacred, and fulfilling commitment you will ever make.

We promise you that.

How do you know if you should let it go, Dear One?

Ask yourself; is investing your energy in that emotion, in that relationship, in that exchange, in that conflict, in that fight, a worth wild investment for you?

That is how you know.

Think about what motivates your own rude, rash, unkind, thoughtless, inconsiderate, impulsive, fearful, or aggressive behavior, Dear One.

Is it an intentional desire to hurt, upset, inconvenience, distress, or disrespect those around you? Or is it something else?

Just something to keep in mind before you take their words, actions, attitudes, or behaviors to heart.

Matters of the heart, Dear One, always seem to be much more complicated then they actually are.

But you see, love is love.  It is what it is.  Wonderful, powerful, intoxicating, healing, transformative, transcendent, inspiring, fun.  No matter how you slice it, dice it or serve it up  – love is just that, love.   And there is nothing complicated about it.

Love only appears complicated when you begin to put dependencies on it and assign requirements to it – when you decide that it exists only in conjunction with a specific set of circumstances, behaviors, actions, words, or deeds.   THAT is where the complication rests, Dear One –  not with love.

The truth is that love has no dependencies and it is everywhere.  You are swimming in it in fact.   And all you need to do to experience it, is allow yourself to open up to it –  allow it to flow to you, through you and from you.   And the way many of you learn how to do that, to open up to the experience of love, is through relationships with people that inspire you to fall, and through that inspiration you learn to let go, open up,  and let it flow.

But remember, Dear One, that love is not sex.  Love is not marriage.  Love is not a family.  Love is not a promise, a commitment, a duty, an obligation or a responsibility.

We want to help you see that any complications that you think you are experiencing as a result of love – are actually a part of your perceived personal reality only,  and are not in fact a reality of love.

Grant yourself a great gift today and let go of all of the things, rules, dependencies that you have put in place as a condition of love and give yourself permission to simply allow it, experience it, enjoy it, be inspired by it, transformed by it, healed by it.  Swim in it, unfettered, undefined, uncomplicated, love.

Life, can be complicated, Dear One, but love never is.

Enjoy it.

If you need proof in order to believe, Dear One, then we want to wholeheartedly encourage you to look for it.

Believe us when we tell you that there is far from a shortage of it.

• Look for proof of abundance, joy, honesty, integrity, kinship, well-being, true love, and limitless possibility, and you will find it.

• Look for proof of lack, insincerity, dishonesty, deceit, imbalance, deception, selfishness, and limited resources, and you will find it.

Are you getting the idea?

Finding yourself in unfamiliar territory is actually a good thing, Dear One.

It means that things are moving, shifting, changing, evolving.

Instead of getting distressed about it, questioning it,  and exerting your time and energy trying to figure out how to get yourself back out of it, give yourself a minute to adjust, look around and explore this new space, because chances are that when you do, you will discover that you are standing exactly where you need to be.

In this moment, Dear One, you can choose to love a little more, to be a little kinder, to be braver, to take a chance, to let it go.

You can choose to be confident, to make a different choice, to change your expectations.

You can choose to take better care of yourself, to honor yourself, to respect yourself, to forgive yourself, and to do the same for those around you.

In this moment, Dear One, you can choose the life that you want.

Now will you?

Be at peace with where you are, Dear One – as the place where you are now standing is a pretty remarkable one.

Why?

Because you are there.

Until you come to see and truly grasp the immeasurable value of your own significance, Dear One, all of your ideas, actions, and words are going to feel insignificant to you, are going to feel as if they are not enough, are going to leave you feeling as if you are not enough, or are coming up short.

BUT, as soon as you come to see and understand fully the value, the significance, the treasure that is you, THEN, and only then, will you be able to see the great value and significance in every – single – thing that you do.