Do yourself a favor, and stop trying to make the right choice all the time Dear One.

Trust us.  The right choice is not the one you want to be making anyway.

Figuring out what is “right” requires you to be judgmental.  It requires you to look at a person, an event, a situation, and judge it as right or wrong, instead of just taking it for what it really is.

Judgment only serves to disconnect, to cut you off, to separate you from your greatest source of strength, inspiration, and joy — your connection to all that is.

So today, instead of trying to make the right choice Dear One, why not choose better than that for yourself, and make the loving choice, the compassionate choice, the honorable choice, the generous choice, the kind choice, or the joyful choice instead?

The people, circumstances, events, and relationships in your life are not the problem Dear One.

It is your reaction to them, your expectations of them, your behavior towards them, your beliefs about them, that is causing most of your discontent.

Isn’t that wonderful news?

You don’t have to wait, hope, pray or push for them to change in order for things to get better.

You can change you, and make things better right now!

Sometimes the best way you can give back Dear One, is to say thank you, and keep moving forward.

You’ve got an important decision to make today Dear One.

To struggle, or not to.

What’s it going to be?

Taking care of yourself does not mean pushing yourself to extremes Dear One.  And it does not mean giving up, quitting, or walking away when things get tough either.

It means remembering to love yourself enough to choose balance, to choose the kinder,  gentler option that is always available to you.

How long does change take Dear One?

That depends.

• How long are you planning to continue to hold on to what is?
• How long are you planning to continue to remain stagnant, motivated by fear, insecurity, doubt, and uncertainty?
• How long are you planning to continue to think that experiencing well-being requires great effort?
• How long are you planning to continue to not trust?
• How long are you planning to continue to hold on to the idea that change is hard?

How long does change take Dear One?

You tell us.

If you are already late Dear One, rushing, hurrying, being scattered and stressing out about it, is not going to fix it, undo it, or make it better in any way, shape or form.

But being calm, cool, collected and fully present when you arrive, just might.

We know that you are tough Dear One. We know that you are strong, and clever, and resourceful.  We know that you are extremely capable of coping with, adapting to, learning to live with, and working around obstacles, difficulties, and pain.

But the truth is that we don’t want you to be.

What we want Dear One, is that when you feel that splinter go in, when you feel that first little prick of pain, when that alarm sounds and you experience those first pangs of concern, distress, discomfort, hurting, or dis-ease, that you give your coping skills a rest for a change.

We don’t want to see you reach for your usual box of Band-Aids and show us, and the rest of the world, just how well you can adapt to it, cope with it, rationalize it, and keep on going.  What we want Dear One, is to see you reach for the tweezers instead.

We don’t want you getting better, and becoming more practiced, at learning to live with the little pricks in your life.  We want you getting better at removing them, while they are still small, before they have a chance to take root, evolve, spread, and grow and into bigger ones.

Fear is not a choice Dear One.

Anger is not a choice either.

Neither is resentment, guilt, hatred, doubt, insecurity, remorse, jealousy, lust, or despair.

They are all feelings.

And feelings do not dictate actions Dear One.

Your choices do.