Feeling badly, indulging in feelings of guilt, remorse or regret for choosing to take care of yourself Dear One, is like indulging in a hot fudge Sunday as a reward for eating less sugar.

You don’t need our help to get past this one.  What you need is reassurance that it is OK, essential even, for you to make yourself the priority in your own life.

And you’ve got it!

Now the only question that remains is, are you going to grant yourself the permission to believe it?

Want some help learning how to forgive Dear One?

Experience is the best teacher.

Forgive yourself.

Start there.

Want to learn how Experience is the best teacher Dear One.

Forgive yourself.

Start there.

• There is more peace in the world when you are peaceful.
• There is more anger in world when you are angry.
• There is more forgiveness in the world when you forgive.
• There is more hatred in the world when you hate.
• There is more compassion in the world when you are compassionate.
• There is more intolerance in the world when you are intolerant.
• There is more love in the world when you love.

Every contribution that you make counts Dear One.

What are you going to choose to contribute today?

Why do their feelings about you impact you so Dear One?  Why does their emotional state, what they feel and think about you have so much effect on you?

That’s easy.

The reason that their feelings towards you distress you, hurt you, worry you, upset you so much is because you believe that you are lacking in some way Dear One, that you are lacking something that you can only get from them.

But the truth of it is Dear One, that that there is nothing that you can get from anyone else that you can not get, attract, acquire, or create on your own.  The truth of it is that you are not beholden to anyone, for anything.

No one can give or take anything from you.  The idea that you have in your mind that they can is simply an illusion.  You and you alone are in control, are responsible for what you allow into your life, into your experience, and what you keep out of it.

They are nothing more than a mirror Dear One, reflecting back to you your belief of that which you believe you are worthy of receiving and that which you believe you are not.

Make sense?

If it didn’t make you happy yesterday, or the day before that, or the day before that, what makes you think it is going to make you happy today, or tomorrow, or the next day?

Unhappiness is much too high of a price to pay for loyalty Dear One, to a person, idea, concept, community, or belief.

And if you are not happy, you are not really in a position to contribute anything of value, so what function does your loyalty really real serve anyway?

Just something to think about.

You can’t always control your feelings Dear One.

But you can always choose to think a different thought and change them anytime you would like.

Some may call this denying what is.

But we would call it, getting yourself into a better feeling place so that you can more effectively deal with what is.

There is no rule anywhere Dear One, that says that you have to feel badly when dealing with a bad situation.

What you didn’t do then Dear One, is and will always be so much less significant than what you are doing now.

Whenever you get the desire to quit Dear One, to throw in the towel, and give up before the end, ask yourself why it is that you want to do so, before you take any action.

• Is it because quitting will release you from a commitment that no longer serves you? Because it will bring you greater pleasure, joy, freedom, and opportunity to pursue something else that you believe will serve you?

• Is it because quitting will release you from having to do the hard work required to complete a difficult task?  Because it will prevent you from confronting your fears, from facing uncomfortable feelings, from the discomfort of growth and moving beyond that which is familiar to you, that which feels safe, into a place that could lead you to who knows where?

Quit or don’t quit Dear One. That is your choice.  It is not our place to tell you what to do.

But whatever you decide, we just want to make sure that you are aware of your reasons for doing it before you do.