You should forgive yourself Dear One, quickly, completely, and as often as you possibly can, for everything that you’ve ever done. Especially those things that you just can’t seem to forgive yourself for.

Why?

Because it is the only way that way that you will ever be able to learn from it, grown from it, or do something valuable with the experience of it, and move forward in a better direction.

That does not mean that we are encouraging you to disregard, overlook, belittle, ignore, or dismiss any negative, hurtful, harmful, thoughtless or destructive behavior you may have engaged in or contributed to.

It means that we want you to recognize that the fact that you are aware that you have not forgiven yourself, that you are are in need of forgiveness, is an acknowledgement of a wrongdoing, an acknowledgement that you could have done better, that a better choice, a more preferred choice was available to you.

If you did not see a need to forgive at all, that would mean that you did not, could not or most likely would not choose to differently next time.

But if you did see a need to forgive yourself Dear One, and acknowledged that recognition as a confirmation that you now know better than you did before, that you could now do better, choose better, but still decided not to…

Well, what a waste that would be.

Just how powerful are you Dear one?

Just how much are you capable of?

That is something that only you can decide.

It’s not love that is causing your pain Dear One.

Love doesn’t hurt.

It is your worry that it won’t be returned, your fear of losing it, your expectations of it, your perceived shortage of it, your desire to control it, and your lack of faith in it that is the source of your discomfort.

So rest assured Dear One, regardless of what you may think or what you have been told, love is most definitely not the problem.

So feel free to open yourself up to it, experience it, accept it, give it away and indulge in it as often and deeply as you possibly can.

Whether you are painting a picture, writing a poem, baking bread,  fixing cars, teaching Spanish, selling stocks, playing the flute, designing skyscrapers, sketching tattoos, balancing spreadsheets or a spoon on the end of your nose – what you do today Dear One, is of so much less importance to us than how you feel while you are doing it.

So you want to know how to do it all Dear One?

One bright, beautiful, deliberate, trusting, bold, loving, confident, compassionate, grateful, joyful step at a time.

There truly is no other way.

You think that if things don’t go the way you imagined they would, if they don’t go as you planned, as expected, that you have somehow failed Dear One, or done something wrong.  But the truth is that that is just not the case.

Your expectations are a reflection of what you know. Your experience is a reflection of what is possible.   And those are two things are dramatically different from one another.

What is possible Dear One, is so much greater than what you know.

And if you want change to happen, if you want to grow, and move beyond what is known to you, beyond your expectations into the realm of what’s possible, then you must learn to let in, allow, and experience without resistance, the unknown.

If you constantly meet the unexpected with judgment, perceive it as wrong, and feel disappointment, dismay, distress, or disbelief when things don’t go as you anticipated, then all change, big or small will always feel like a struggle to you.

So the next time things don’t go as expected, the next time things don’t go according to plan, instead of cursing it, judging it, or railing against what is, embrace it, celebrate it and get excited, because when that happens Dear One, when you are no longer aware of exactly what it is that is going to happen next, that is the moment when anything can happen, where anything is possible.

And there is no more exhilarating place that you could ever possibly be.

Do you know what is guiding you Dear One?  Do you know what the desire is that is motivating you to make the choices that you make?

Is it trust, love, a desire to create, connect, to be happy, to be strong, to know joy?

Or is it a desire for security, safety, acceptance, belonging, recognition, attention, or relief?

It is important that you know because before you can change, before you can create more of what it is that you want for yourself, you need to first be aware of what that is.  And know this; figuring out your desires, what it is that you want to create more of in your life is very different than figuring out what is it you want to avoid.

• A desire to avoid heartbreak is not the same as wanting more love in your life.
• A desire for less illness is not the same as wanting better health
• A desire to avoid poverty is not the same as wanting greater wealth
• A desire to feel less lonely is not the same as wanting more companionship
• A desire for less stress is not the same as wanting more time, energy, contentment, or peace of mind
• A desire for less fatigue is not the same as wanting more endurance so you can do, be, have, or accomplish all that you want.

The steps, actions, feelings, and mindset required for you to create one are dramatically different than what is required for you to create the other.

All of the attention in the world focused on a contrasting goal is not ever going to bring you any closer to attaining it, no matter how hard you try, how badly you want it, or how much you think you deserve it.

Now you know!

Very excited to announce the launch of a little something new.

You can check out The new Soul’s Agenda website here: www.TheSoulsAgenda.com

Can’t wait to hear what you think of it!

Any and all questions, comments, feedback, and suggestions are very welcome.

And if you should find any misspelled words, broken links, missing images, bugs, kinks, grammatical errors, or any other things not working quite as well as they should, I would love to hear about that too, seriously. The more eyes proofing the better.

Very busy running around getting ready for my trip to the UK in the morning. Off to go and meet my publisher, the Queen, and a few other British folks for a few days before heading up to Scotland to enjoy some green.

I will do my best to post from the road as WiFi and my schedule allows and will try to post pictures on my FB wall as well. If you want to follow along Friend my personal page here : Michelle Stevens

Cheers!