We want to make this as simple for you as we possibly can, Dear One.

Forgiveness has absolutely, positively, nothing whatsoever to do with them.

It is simply the act of releasing your connection to something that no longer serves you,  releasing your bond with something that you no longer want to remain connected to.

It is letting go of the rope, removing your hand from the hot stove, exiting the burning building.

Being patient and waiting are two VERY different things, Dear One.

Patience is an act of allowing, of knowing, of creating, of quiet anticipation.  It is fluid, changing, and constantly in motion.  It is a powerful, empowering, and confident choice that requires your active, conscious participation throughout.

Waiting is a passive act.  It is stagnant.  It lacks action, energy, movement, and active participation.   It can be frustrating, stressful, and emotionally unpredictable.  It is an inert, submissive, and unempowered choice that does not require much of you once the decision to wait has been made.

So when you are in a spot, Dear One, where you think that what happens next is totally and completely out of your hands, think again.

You’ve still got one more choice to make.

And a pretty important one at that.

• Will you choose to leap?
• Will you choose to trust your instincts?
• Will you choose to let well-being be the dominate force in your life?
• Will you choose to release old patterns and allow yourself to heal?
• Will you choose to believe that you can?
• Will you choose to step forward with confidence?
• Will you choose to make joy a priority above all else?
• Will you choose to forgive yourself and them, for your benefit, not for theirs?
• Will you choose to let go of all of the things that no longer serve you, including negative thoughts, actions, beliefs, and relationships?

We already know that you CAN do all of these things, Dear One.

That is not the question that we are asking you.

What we really want to know is, WILL you?

You have no obligation to anyone, Dear one that that will ever be more important than your obligation to yourself.

No one can take more from you, Dear One, than you willingly give to them, be it intentionally or unintentionally.

Your depletion has absolutely nothing to do with them, with their treatment of you, or their demands on you and your time, and absolutely everything to do with your treatment of you, your demands on yourself, and on your time.

If you are feeling depleted, Dear One, taken advantage of, knocked around, and no longer in control of your own time and energy, look no further than the reflection in the mirror to see the face of the only one responsible for your feeling that way.

• Don’t worry that you have missed out, Dear One.
• Don’t worry that you made the wrong choice, waited too long, or missed the boat.
• You have not. You did not. You can not.

Do you know what the universal force is that dictates the experiences, people, and relationships that you are and are not meant to have in your life?

You are it!

If it didn’t happen, if you didn’t choose it, then it was not meant to be.  It’s just that simple.

So don’t worry, regret or fret over that which was not, Dear One.

Instead enjoy, give your attention to, celebrate that which was, that which is, instead.

And if you should find yourself in the all too common situation where you have made a choice that you are not enjoying – accept it, learn from it, and choose again.

When it comes to trust, Dear One, there really is only question that you need to know the answer to.

And it is not the one that you have been asking.  It is not; How do you know if you can trust them?

The only question that you really need to know the answer to, Dear One is; Do you trust you?

You want to know how to turn things around, Dear One?

Well the truth is that you don’t actually need to.  You can keep right on heading in the direction that you are heading and still end up exactly where you want to be.

How?

While your experience of creation may feel like a linear one to you, we can assure you that it most certainly is not.

By changing your perspective, by changing what you give your attention to, you will change the road before you, you will change what lies ahead.

Focus on the darkness and the decay, and your path will grow darker.  Focus on the light, the beauty, the growth that you see, even if it is just the smallest little bud, and your path will begin to grow brighter and more full of life right before your eyes.

You don’t need to exert the (potentially considerable) effort that it would take to fight the momentum of what is and turn yourself around.  Instead save that energy use it to focus on the path ahead, and trust that when your stay on the lookout for that which is wanted, over that which is not, that it will always, always, always lead you in the direction of your gaze.

When you are in doubt, Dear One, and don’t know what to do next,  what choice to make next, what direction you want to move in next, instead of getting caught up in an exhausting cycle of uncertainty, choose to be grateful instead – find something to be grateful for instead– and trust that when you make room for it, the answer that you are looking for will come to you.

And if it does not come to you right away – at least the time you spend waiting will be time well spent.

No one has it all figured out, Dear one.

No one.

Not even us.

So let yourself off the hook today and stop trying so hard to be the one to do it.