Do you want to know how to be loved the way that you want to be loved, Dear One?

Love yourself well.

Attitudes, Dear One, are what put any event, situation, or circumstance into context.

It is not the event, the circumstance, or the situation itself so much that is the primary determiner of your reaction to it, as much as it is the attitude that you hold towards it, the disposition that you are wearing when the situation arises.

We are telling you this, Dear One, not so that you will blame yourself for bad feelings that may arise when “something” terrible, troubling, or undesirable happens.  But simply to make you aware, and not so quick to blame the “event” itself entirely for how you are feeling, or put a great deal of effort into trying to change the “event”, the or external circumstances that created it, in order to help yourself feel differently or better about it.

Examining the attitudes that you have about it, and the lens through which you are viewing it, is where the real power for change lays, and will have a much greater impact on helping you to navigate your way through your feelings about it, or the feelings that come up for you as a result of it.

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Sometime healing does not require a new herb, potion, tonic or pill, Dear One.  Sometimes it does not require a new way of thinking, moving, eating, or behaving. Sometimes it does not require a new mantra, meditation, massage or treatment.  Sometimes it doesn’t even require compassion, understanding, insight or forgiveness.

Sometimes, Dear One, the only thing that is required to heal, is rest.

So, before you go off in search of a new answer, a new technique, a new practice, a new method, a new plan for healing your body, for healing your mind, for healing your life, why not give resting a try first and see how you feel.

What does that look like?  Sleep. Make it a priority.  No excuse.

Choose to love yourself first. Dear One, and show them how it’s done.

We can think of no more loving gift that you could give them today then to help them to know the experience, the joy, the potential, the pleasure of self-love/self-care.

• Do you like hiking, gardening, and being outdoors?
• Do you like movies, theatre, and literature?
• Does your life have value, meaning and significance?
• Are you smart enough, strong enough, clever enough, and brave enough?
• Are you special?  Are you worthy? Do you matter?

What do all of these questions have in common, Dear One?

The answers that you give to them are the only answers that matter.

The goal, Dear One, is not to evolve to a place where you no longer need external validation to know, and feel, and own your self-worth.

The goal is to evolve to a place where you know how and where to get it! :)

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It is better to do nothing, Dear One, then it is to move forward in distress, frustration, anger, resentment, insecurity, hatred, or greed.

It is better to create nothing, then it is to create more of that which is unwanted.

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You should know, Dear One, that all of your limits have been taught to you.

Every single one.

Every limit that you think that you have, that you believe in, that you perceive to be true for yourself, has been learned.

A friend, a family member, a boss, a mentor, an enemy, a stranger, a book, a movie, a song, an accident, someone, something, somewhere has led you to believe it was true.

But here’s the thing; it’s not.

The truth is that if you had not been taught otherwise, you would know and believe yourself to be that which you really are – which is limitless.

Want to know the best way to help yourself to unlearn any limiting belief, Dear One?

Test it.

Clean up, Dear One. There is an abundance of “clutter” around you that quite frankly, you would feel so much better without. There is an excess of uncertainty, restraint, and frustration in your life.  There is too much self pity, self-doubt, fear and need for approval.  It will be much easier for you to create the life that want for yourself when your space is not full of all of the things that you don’t want.

Are you ready let go and be rid of these things?  It is easier to do then you might think.

Here is the trick:  Do nothing.  That’s it.   That’s all.  Do nothing and all of the excesses in your life will fade away, diminish, be gone.

Do nothing to acknowledge them.  Do nothing to feed them.  Do nothing to indulge them or justify them or explain them or rationalize them.  Do not apologize for them.  Do not track how long you have had them.  Do absolutely nothing to, or for them anymore……and they will go away.

As soon as you stop feeding, fueling and acknowledging that which you longer want, that which no longer serves you, it will cease to be.  It is your attention to something that causes it to grow, that gives it energy and definition, that attracts more of it to you.  So instead of giving even the smallest amount of your attention to that which is unwanted, try instead, to give it only to that which is wanted.  And then watch those things begin to take on a place of dominance in your life.

Clean up your thoughts Dear One and you will begin to clean up your life.

Beauty is not something that you see with your eyes. Dear One, it is something that you feel with your heart.

So how do you know if what you are looking at, if what you are seeing is truly beautiful, or if it is simply an illusion, a judgment, a product of your imagination?

Close your eyes.

If it disappears, then you know.