Please don’t waste any more of your time, Dear One, trying to make the right impression, trying to fit in, trying to be accepted, trying to make them see, like, or love you.
Because no matter how hard you try, no matter how much you plan, no matter how much effort you put into it, no matter how careful you are, you are never going to be able to control what they think of you.
That is not your choice to make. It is theirs and theirs alone.
Give all of your attention only to that which is wanted today, Dear One, in all situations, under all circumstances, no matter what.
That does not mean that we want you to force yourself to pretend to be happy, hopeful, healthy, or helpful when that is not genuinely what you are feeling.
What it means is that we want you to give yourself permission to turn your head and choose a different view or a different perspective, to imagine a different outcome, if what you see is not what you want.
It really is okay to not take it all so seriously, Dear One – whatever it is – even the really, big, seriously important, significant, or scary stuff.
We say this to you not to disregard, disrespect, trivialize, dismiss or belittle whatever very difficult, important or challenging situation, circumstance or event you might be dealing with at the moment.
We say this to you to help you to remember that you can choose to approach it, deal with it, and move past it with ease, grace, joy, confidence and maybe even a little bit of levity, just as easily as you can with intensity, struggle, stress, drama, fear, and doubt.
Forgive, Dear One, them and yourself.
Healing will begin the moment that you do.
And remember, forgiveness is not about condoning, accepting, or dismissing poor behavior, hurtful words, or damaging actions.
It is about choosing to prioritize yourself, your health, and your well-being, over your pain.
We can understand your desire to want to protect yourself, Dear One, to want to keep yourself safe from harm, to want to do all that you can to avoid injuring yourself, both physically and emotionally, and to want to keep others from doing the same. And you should know that we want that for you too.
You should also know that nothing makes you more vulnerable then cutting yourself off from your source, than shutting down your heart, ignoring your intuition and holding yourself back because you are afraid.
The more you trust, Dear One, the more you open up, the more you allow yourself to love, connect, and move forward with an open heart, the safer you will be!
We are all better off because of it, Dear One.
And we wanted you to know it.
So, thank you.
You decide what stays and what goes in your life, Dear One.
You and only you.
And you do so with your choices.
You decide what stays by giving your attention to it.
You decide what goes by withdrawing your attention from it.
So what will stay and what will go today?
If you feel as if you have lost your balance, Dear One, if you feel as if you are having trouble getting both of your feet planted firmly on the ground, the single most important thing that you can do for yourself in this moment, is to find it again.
How can you do that?
By asking yourself the following before every step that you take, and answering it honestly:
Will this choice, will this action, will this conversation, will this program, will this meal, will this purchase, will this person, will this decision, bring me closer to achieving a state of balance in my life or carry me farther away from it?
That’s how.
Embrace change today, Dear One.
(Do not resist it.)
That is all.
Are you up for the challenge?
Create from an angry, frustrated, stressed out, fearful place, Dear One, and no matter how hard you work, how hard you try, how good your intentions are, the very best that you are ever going to be able to do is create more of the same.
You can’t make an apple pie with peaches.
Make sense?