If we were you, Dear One, we would not think about, talk about, or give the majority of our energy or attention to the things around us that displeased us, frustrated us, angered us, upset us, caused us discomfort, pain, distress, or pissed us off.

We would instead choose to focus our attention on those things that pleased us, that felt good to us, that brought us joy, pleasure, and happiness, that inspired us, motivated us, and helped us to feel loved, useful, connected and grateful.

We are not suggesting you turn a blind eye to all of your problems, and all the problems in the world around you. We are simply suggesting that you consider the possibility that choosing to focus on their solutions instead would perhaps be a more pleasant and productive use of your time.

You can choose to focus your attention on that which makes you feel badly if you want to, Dear One, but you should know that that would not be the choice that we would make, if we were you.

If it didn’t make you happy yesterday, or the day before that, or the day before that, what makes you think it is going to make you happy today, or tomorrow, or the next day?

Unhappiness is much too high of a price to pay for loyalty, Dear One, to a person, idea, concept, community, or belief.

Don’t worry that you have missed your chance, Dear One, that you have missed out, that you are missing out.

You haven’t.

We promise.

You can’t.

It’s just not possible.

You are the only one who determines what experiences, what opportunities, what relationships you are, and are not meant to have in your life.

If it didn’t happen, if you didn’t choose it, then it was not meant for you.

Don’t regret, worry, or fret over that which you did not choose.

Instead, focus your time, energy, and attention on enjoying that which you did!

And if you find that you have made a choice that you are not enjoying Dear One, accept it, learn from it, and choose again.

If you are still looking at the problem, Dear One, the solution will continue to elude you.

Not now, not then, not ever, Dear One, will you ever be in a position where your options, your choices, your possibilities, are controlled, dictated or determined by anyone other than yourself, at least not without your permission.

Please try to remember that the next time you look around and find yourself feeling as though your options are limited.

Them or Me?

To begin with, this is not actually the right question to be asking, Dear One.

Those are not actually the two options that you are choosing between when you are struggling to figure out which is more important in the moment; taking care of their needs, or taking care of your own.

In actuality, it is not a choice between Them or Me that you are trying to make.
It is a choice between Me or Not Me.

And if you want to know which choice to make, if you want to know which choice will always serve the greatest good, which choice will always serve your greatest good, (which are both always one and the same) we will tell you.

It will always be to choose ME.

Because choosing Not Me can never serve the whole in any positive way.

PS
Making this choice has absolutely nothing whatsoever to do with being selfish.

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Your opinion of you may change from day to day, Dear One, based on how you feel, how you look, what you think, what you’ve done (or didn’t do), how you loved, what words you used, what you ate, how well you performed, etc.

Some day’s you will feel more worthy of love, and some days you will feel less.

But you should know, Dear One, that no matter what, our opinion of you will never change.

Through our eyes, you will always be divine.  Through our eyes, you will always be sacred. Through our eyes you will always be worthy.

So, the next time you are in doubt, the next time you are trying to figure out whether or not you are worthy, of love, of respect, of compassion, of forgiveness, and you are in need of a second opinion, please remember take a minute, and ask for ours.

Like the sunrise brings brilliant, magnificent, awe-inspiring beauty into the lives of all who  wake up to see it, so to does this day hold many great, wonderful, and beautiful surprises for you, Dear One, if you are willing are wake up and see them.

Want to know a trick, Dear One, that will make taking that first (or next) step a whole lot easier?

Instead of imagining all that you could lose, all that could go wrong, and how far you have to go,  imagine all that you could gain, and all that could go right, and all the fun that you could have along the way.

Doing so will not make that first step feel any less steep, but it could make it feel a whole lot less scary and a whole lot more inviting to take.

Your heart does not have an off switch, Dear One.  It is always on.

It is always talking to you. It is always guiding you. It is always showing you the way.

When you can’t hear it, and all you can hear is the voice in your head, the voice of fear, insecurity, doubt, judgment, concern, guilt, lack, or despair, it is does not mean that your heart has shut down, is unavailable, or that it does not have wisdom to share with you.

It simply means that in that moment you are choosing to focus your attention elsewhere.

The voice that you give your attention to Dear One, is the one that you will hear the loudest.

If you want to turn the volume back up on your heart, so that you can hear it loud and clear, so that it is the dominate voice within you, simply choose to give your undivided attention to it.

Do this and it won’t take long before all of the other rumblings within you become nothing more than a faint and distant murmur in the background.