If you want to help them grieve, Dear One:

• Ask them what happened
• Ask them how they are doing
• Ask them how they are feeling

If you want to help them heal:

• Ask them to tell you about the one that they lost
• Ask them to tell you what they love most about them
• Ask them to tell you how they made them laugh
• Ask them to tell you how they made them feel

Help them to remember, and re-connect with the love, not the loss

Run, don’t walk away from anything or anyone that causes you to feel unsafe today, Dear One.

We don’t want you practicing/learning how to better tolerate the discomfort of mistrust.

We want you learning how to heed to it.

It’s really important.

Your choices, your decisions, your actions in the present moment are creating your future, Dear One.

In what direction do you want to go with your life?  What future are you trying to create for yourself?

• Is it one filled with work that frustrates you?
• Is it one filled with insecurity and uncertainly in your relationships?
• Is it one filled with anger, lack and fear?
• Is it one filled with balance and awareness?
• Is it one filled with health and stamina?
• Is it one filled with joy, meaning, contentment and happiness?

It is your happiness on the line.  It is your body.  It is your time.

Choose wisely, Dear One.  Your future depends on it.

Remember, Dear One, whenever you feel scared, chaotic, lost, or out of control, that your center, your home,  is always only ever one slow, deep breath away.

Make a sacred pledge to yourself, Dear One, right here and now, to love yourself, no matter what.

• No matter what you said. No matter what you thought. No matter what you did (or didn’t do).
• No matter what they said. No matter what they thought. No matter what they did (or didn’t do).

Decide right now, to love yourself anyway.

Because to decide otherwise, Dear One, is to decide to cut yourself off from your source, just when you need that connection the most.

Because to decide otherwise, is to decide to reject the most powerful tool you’ve got at your disposal for turning things around.

Today we want you to count your blessings, Dear One.

Why?

Because when you are counting your blessings you are not counting your challenges, your struggles, your heartaches, your disappointments, your fears, your pains, your mistakes, or your losses.

That’s why.

Trust your instincts, Dear One.

We know that you know who you are, Dear One.

And we know that you know what you are capable of.

How do we know that you know?

Because the answer to both is whatever you decide that it is.

Remember that while you are making up your mind.

What do you think would happen, Dear One, what do you think the result would be, if you refocused all of the energy that you have been exerting on trying to be good enough, to being happy instead?

We are not going to give you the answer to this one.

If you really want to know, you’re going to have to try it and find out for yourself.

What thought could you think right now, Dear One, that would bring you the greatest amount of joy, the greatest amount of pleasure, the greatest amount of happiness to think?

Are you thinking it?

Good!