The realization that you are bound by nothing, Dear One, except for the limitations that you place on yourself, your beliefs, your choices, and your own imagination – that is what true independence is.

It would serve you well to remember, Dear One, that this day is a gift.

•  A gift that can mend your heart, if you are willing to let go of a hurt
•  A gift that can heal your body, if you willing to let go of resistance
•  A gift that can soothe your soul, if you are willing to let go of hatred and anger

And all you need to do to receive your gift, is to trust and open up to your present.

You can never undo that which has been done, Dear One.

It’s impossible.

So please don’t waste your precious time and energy trying.

Once you have had an experience, for better or for worse, it is yours forever.

And regardless of how deeply you wish it could be so, no amount of regret, guilt, remorse, anger, self-pity, self-loathing, sadness, or hatred is ever going to change that.

But know this, that you are never without options, that there is always something that you can do.

It is always within your power, Dear One, to change the way that you feel about it, to change what it means to you, to change its significance in your life.

And changing that, changes everything.

Keep looking forward, Dear One, no matter what.

Where you are going matters so much more than where you have been.

You can’t punish yourself for making a mistake, misjudgment, or misstep, Dear One, and come back into alignment, return to your flow, make it right again, at the same time.

You’re going to have to choose, one or the other.

You’re going to have to decide which is more important to you; returning to well-being and restoring balance, or remaining self-critical.

What’s it going to be?

What kind of life do you want to live, Dear One?

• What kind of person do you want to be?
• What kind of work do you want to do?
• What kind of impact to do you want to make?
• What kind of impression do you want to leave behind?

Do your thoughts, words, actions, values, beliefs and attitude align with your desires?

If they don’t, do you think that perhaps you could pay closer attention to your choices and make the necessary adjustments so that they do?

There is nothing more exciting, fulfilling or empowering, Dear One, then identifying a desire and then choosing your way into alignment with it.

And there is nothing that we would love more than to see you have that experience.

Instead on trying to fix it, Dear One, prioritize peace.

Make allowing, creating, and embracing peace within yourself your priority above all else.

Do what we are telling you and watch as things begin to fix themselves.

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• You don’t have to wait until you are sick to take time to heal, Dear One.
• You don’t have to wait until you are in trouble to ask for help.
• You don’t have to wait until you are lonely or afraid to invite someone to keep you company.
• You don’t have to wait until you are perfect to be worthy of love.
• You don’t have to wait until the end to decide to begin again.

• Their breath is not your breath
• Their eyes are not your eyes
• Their skin is not your skin
• Their lips are not your lips
• Their heart is not your heart

Listen to what they have to have to say, Dear One, ask for their advice, guidance, support and perspective, consider their point of view — if you think it will help.

But in the end, the experience of it will be yours and yours alone; seen by your eyes, sensed by your skin, touched by your lips, felt by your heart.

In the end, it is not about what they want for you Dear One, it’s about what you want for you – and you are the only one that can decide that.

ON A PERSONAL NOTE:
Sometimes what we need to hear is not what we want to hear. I hate it when that happens. Don’t you? 

If you are angry, Dear One, know this, they are not to blame.

Regardless of anything that they might have said, or done to piss you off or hurt you, they are still not to blame.

No one can make you feel something that does not already exist within you.

They can inspire you to get in touch with your anger, they can serve as an instigator, their actions can draw your anger up to the surface, but nothing that they do can inject anger into your heart.

Isn’t that great news?

Now you know, Dear One, that when you are angry and you are ready to deal with it, that you don’t have go back and deal with them in order to do it.

You only have to deal with yourself.