When your behaviors are no longer serving you, Dear One, when they stop yielding the desired results, when your actions are no longer in alignment with your thoughts, feelings,
and desires – don’t start doubting yourself, your choices, your abilities, or your judgment. Don’t get angry, frustrated, or hopeless.  Don’t start looking for something or someone to blame.

Instead, try remembering that life is constantly changing, and so are you.

If the beliefs, routines, rituals, patterns and behaviors that brought you comfort, security, health, relief and joy yesterday, do not do so today – it may simply be time to change them.

The only way to know for sure, Dear One, what love really is, is to experience it for yourself. It is not something that you can learn, that you can come to truly understand from a book, a song, a movie, a poem, or a class.

And the best way to do that, to have a truly authentic experience of love, is to love yourself, purely, totally, completely, and unconditionally. That means  thinking, speaking, and acting lovingly towards yourself, all the time.

Do that, know that experience, give yourself the experience of knowing what unconditional love looks, feels, sounds, smells, and tastes like, and you will never again have to ask yourself or anyone else the question ‘Is this love?’, because you will know.

You will then know from firsthand experience what true love feels like, so you will be able to recognize if what you are feeling for them is love, and Dear One, you will know how to recognize if they are truly loving you in return.

Making tough decisions is a part of life, Dear One.

Living is choosing. You know this very well.

You are forced to make tough decisions everyday, and today is no different.

• Choose with your heart, connected to your source, open to the vast possibilities and wisdom of the universe, and your choice, regardless of what you decide, will be an empowering one for you.
• Choose with your head, out of fear, based on logic, experience and expectations grounded in the past, disconnected from your source, and your choice, regardless of what you decide, will be a limiting one for you.

So there you have it.

Does this help to make your tough decision a little less so?

We hope so.

We have been asked time and time again, Dear One:

• Does religion matter?
• Does politics matter?
• Does the news matter?
• Does art matter?
• Does their criticism matter? (or their praise)
• Does a lie matter?

And every time we are asked our answer is always the same – we have absolutely no idea at all what so ever.   It is not for us to say.

But what we can say to you with absolute certainty is this:

• Your opinions matter
• Your ideas matter
• Your beliefs matter
• Your actions matter
• Your feelings matter
• Your heart matters
• You matter

The more you love, Dear One, the more love you bring into this world, the more love there will be!

We want to make this as simple for you as we possibly can, Dear One.

Forgiveness has absolutely, positively, nothing what so ever to do with them.

It is simply the act of releasing your connection to something that no longer serves you,  releasing your bond with something that you no longer want to remain connected to.

It is letting go of the rope that is dragging you, removing your hand from the hot stove that is burning you, abandoning the sinking ship.

Do you want to know how to eliminate doubt, Dear One?

Never wonder “If”.

Only wonder “When”.

You are the teller of the story of your life, Dear One.  You are the one who decides what kind of story it will be.

You choose (where) YOU want the emphasis to be p-l-a-c-e-d in the telling of it.

• Do you want to emphasize the parts that you like or the parts that you don’t?  All that you have, or all that you lack?
• Do you want to tell a story about your strengths or your weaknesses?  About those things that you love, or those things that you hate?
• Do you want to bring attention to all that you are proud of or those things that you regret most of all?  To the parts of yourself that are hurting or the parts that are healing?
• Do you want to emphasize your triumphs, your successes, and your victories?  Those moments that you were brave, that you summoned courage that you didn’t think you had? Or those moments that paralyzed you, that paralyze you still, where you gave into fear, resignation or defeat?

What’s it going to be, Dear One?

What story are you going to choose to tell yourself, and all those around you, today?

Mastery is not about perfection, Dear One, or doing, being or creating something that is the best or better than anyone else.

To achieve mastery is to achieve a state of being fully present, of being fully aware of what is happening around you and within you, and what is available to you in each and every unique moment of your life, acknowledging it, taking it in, allowing it to inspire, inform, motivate, shape, and influence your thoughts, actions and beliefs from moment to moment.

Masters are not superior beings Dear One, they are not better people than everyone else.  They are simply more practiced at living in the now and taking advantage of all of the gifts that are available to them in the present moment.

They don’t try to create exceptional, superior, or richer work, but being fully present, they have  a deeper, richer, more connected productive and fruitful experience of each moment, and that experience gets expressed, gets translated into all that they do.

If you want to achieve mastery, Dear One, don’t try to be better at what you do, try to be more present while you are doing it, and you will be on  your way.

Only an open heart can heal, Dear One.