Start by choosing to believe with absolute certainty that everything is going to be okay.

And then, act accordingly.

Because the truth is, Dear One, that it will be.

Friend, boyfriend, lover, wife, spouse, partner, neighbor, sister, brother, cousin, best friend, confidant, significant other, soul mate, buddy, companion, associate, cohort or chum. 

You have lots of ways of defining, categorizing and labeling your relationships Dear One.  And we realize that these measures can be greatly varied, intricately complicated, highly emotional, and hold a great deal of significance for you.   We know that they strongly influence and in some cases totally determine how you act towards someone, how you think, feel and react around them, and your expectations of them.   We get it. We really do understand.

But from where we are standing there truly is only one measure by which all relationships are defined, categorized and labeled — and that measure Dear One, is the amount of love shared.

As we see it, how you choose to define a relationship is so much less significant than the amount of love that you choose to bring to it and allow yourself to experience within it.

So, what is in a name, Dear One?

As far as we are concerned, as long as there is love there, not a whole hell of a lot.

Just like you use your feet to move your physical body in the direction that you want to travel, Dear One, we would like to encourage you to use your thoughts to move your emotional and spiritual body in much the same way.

If you wanted to go uptown to see a movie, you would not leave your home and start traveling downtown and assume that if you continued on in this direction you would eventually arrive at your desired destination, would you?

• If you want to be stronger, choose thoughts that make you feel more powerful, not ones that make you doubt yourself and your abilities.
• If you want to be braver, choose thoughts that ground you, not ones that make you feel out of control.
• If you want to be successful, choose thoughts that empower you, not ones that make you feel as if you are incapable.
• If you want to be desired, choose thoughts that make you feel desirable, not ones that make you feel insecure.
• If you want to feel more connected, choose thoughts that bring you closer to your source, not ones that hold you apart from it.

Like your feet, your thoughts are powerful conveyors, Dear One.

So remember to choose them wisely and with great intention.

You can choose to believe anything that you want, Dear One.

Your beliefs are not like the color of your eyes or the length of your pinky toe.

They are not assigned to you, or determined for you, by genetics or some other external force in the universe, like a parent, a teacher, or a book.

(Although we know that sometimes it can feel that way)

They are a very personal choice that you make every single day.

And if yours are causing you to feel anything other than strong, empowered, and  good about yourself, please remember that it is well within your power to change them anytime you would like.

How do you achieve mastery of your own heart, Dear One?

You allow yourself to trust it.

Toughing it out, pushing through, trying harder, sacrificing more, working smarter, powering on, or fighting the good fight will never be a more efficient or effective approach for helping you to get there, for helping you to achieve your goals, Dear One, as getting happy will.

If feeling better, being happy, creating balance, and enjoying this moment, was your top priority Dear One, what would you be doing right now?

Well…?

What are you waiting for?

What thought do you think would bring you the greatest amount of joy, the greatest amount of pleasure, to think right now, Dear One?

Are you thinking it?

Good!

This is your, life Dear One.

• Love it
• Hate it
• Enjoy it
• Waste it
• Share it
• Hoard it
• Embrace it
• Fear it
• Celebrate it
• Worry it away

What you do with it is totally and completely up to you.

How you respond to the events in it is totally and completely up to you.

How you react to the people in it is totally and completely up to you.

Not them, Dear One.

You.

Just you.

Balance is…

• being indulgent and disciplined
• being strong and vulnerable
• being brave and cautious
• being selfish and generous
• being flexible and committed
• being playful and working hard

Balance is not, Dear One, achieved by standing still on the point in the middle.