Treat yourself well Dear One; with kindness, compassion, love, humility, flexibility, generosity,  forgiveness, and respect.

Why?

Because they’re watching you, and are taking their lead on how you want to be treated from you.

You don’t have to fight the brewing storm Dear One, or fear it, run from it or hide from it.

There is another option you know.

You can simply allow it to come, and trust yourself enough to know that you can handle it, whatever it may be.

Truth is, your opinion of it, your feelings about it, your actions towards it, your awareness of it, are all feeding it, are all adding to it, are all attracting it towards you Dear One.

If you are giving your attention to it, you are making a contribution to it.  So we would like for you to choose with great intention what you would like that contribution to be.

You can speed it up or slow it down,  you make can make it stronger and more fierce or kinder and gentler, or you can add levity, compassion, calm and peacefulness or you can add anger, fear, confusion and angst.  You can even turn it around or stop it all together if you should choose.

And before you ask, yes, you are that powerful.

Why beat yourself up with should-haves, would-haves, and could-haves Dear One, when what you didn’t do then, is, and always will be, so much less important than what you choose to do now.

Never feel guilty about taking care of yourself Dear One, for putting yourself first, regardless of what anyone else has to say about it.

Those that give you a hard time just don’t yet understand how vitally important it is for you to do so – for you, for them and for the rest of the world.

If you are not healthy, happy, balanced, and strong, you will be of little or no use to anyone, including yourself.

Someone’s got to teach them Dear One.  Someone’s got to show them how it is done.

Why not you?

You are not meant to do this alone, Dear One.

Needing, asking for, and accepting help is not a sign of weakness. It is not an indicator of dependence, failure, stupidity, or lack in any way, shape or form either.

It is actually a sign of great wisdom.

The more you allow yourself to rely on others, the more you allow yourself to rely on the strength of the whole to heal, create, inspire, and connect, the more in alignment with your source you will be.

And the more in alignment with your source that you are, the more powerful we all will be as a result.

So the next time an opportunity arises Dear One, for you to reach out and ask someone for help, know that it will be of a great benefit to us all for you to take it.

Your mind can be your greatest ally Dear One, if only you would allow yourself the freedom to not be ruled by it.

There is you, and then there are your thoughts. They are not one in the same.

When your thoughts race Dear One – remember that the rest of you does not need to follow at the same pace.

• You cannot undo that which has been done
• You cannot change a moment in the past
• You cannot take back words once they have been spoken
• You cannot always fix it

But you can always apologize Dear One.

An apology is meant to serve as a diffuser, an acknowledgment of regret, an opportunity for forgiveness, to allow the release of the hurt feelings created as a result of hurtful act, whether it was intentional or not.

But before it can have any chance of successfully doing any of these things, it is necessary that you first forgive yourself.

It is essential that you first release the pain, the sorrow, the guilt, the regret that you are holding onto within you.  It is essential  that you find a way to let it go, and open up, and heal that space within you so that you can show them how its done, show them what it looks like to do so, have room in your heart to share with them Dear One, to help give them the strength to do the same.

We understand that what we are asking is not an easy thing to do.

But remember, that what you are asking them to do is even more difficult than that.

How can you even think of asking them to do this very difficult thing, to accept your apology, to consider forgiveness Dear One, if you are not willing to do the very difficult work necessary to forgive yourself first.

Clinging to fear when you are in uncertain or unfamiliar circumstances Dear One, will serve you in much the same way that turning off the faucet will when you are most in need of a drink.

Fear cuts you off, from your source, from well-being, from the support, guidance, energy and wisdom that you need, just when you need it the most.

Trust in a universe that exists to support you, opens you up and connects you to your source, connects you to the unlimited support, guidance, energy and wisdom that is available to you at all times.

Fear cuts you off, and holds you in darkness. Trust opens you up and lets in the light.

The more you allow yourself to trust in the face of fear Dear One, the more you will be opening up the faucet. The more open your faucet is, the less you will have to be fearful of.

Unless you want more of it, choose to focus your attention elsewhere, Dear One.

What you didn’t do then Dear One, is and will always be so much less significant than what you are doing now.