You know you don’t have to try so hard to be nice, agreeable, and accommodating to others Dear One if you are not feeling nice, agreeable, and accommodating.

Yes, of course you always want to do your best to be respectful, courteous, and compassionate to those around you, but know that there is no less courteous an act then that of being inauthentic, false or phony.

Don’t pretend to like something that you don’t.  Don’t pretend to agree when you disagree.  Don’t pretend to be interested when you are not. Especially if you are doing so out of a sense of respect.  Because we can assure you Dear One, that there is nothing respectful about being disingenuous, deceptive, or fake.

We want you to know Dear One, that the potential for joy exists for you in every moment.  Yes, every single one.   That does not however, mean that every moment of your life is meant to be joyful.

We would not like to see you deny yourself the experience of fully embracing all of the other emotions that are available to you as well; excitement, anticipation, exhilaration, concern, sadness, loss, fear, anger, confusion, and so on.  They all deserve your full attention when they arise for you.  Always honor yourself Dear One, by honoring your feelings.  Grant yourself the freedom to fully experience them in the moment.

And once you have done so, once you have allowed yourself to have the experience of embracing your current emotional state, fully, completely and genuinely, and have learned the lesson that it was trying to teach you, have become aware of what it was trying to bring to your attention, know that joy will always be there for you, right behind the other, whenever you are ready to return to it.

Remember Dear One, you don’t have to choose to go with their flow, to get caught up in their energy, to move to their rhythm, to dance to their beat, to take part in their story.

You can if you want to.

You can choose to participate, to get swept up in, to interact with, and respond to their energy if you would like.

And Dear One… and this is so very important that we want you to pay very close attention to what we are going to tell you next,

…you can also choose not to.

The stronger choice, the wiser choice, the more powerful choice Dear One, will always be the one that moves you closer to that which is wanted instead of away from that which is unwanted.

Does that help?

To connect or not to connect.

That is a choice that is available to you in each and every moment of your day Dear One.

Source, God, spirit, energy, light, life force, prana, Qi, whatever you should choose to call it, is available to you, to all of you, in limitless quantities, equally, at all times, without exception.

The frequency, quality, depth, and intensity, of your connection to it has absolutely nothing whatsoever to do with us, them, or it, and absolutely everything to do with you, and your desire and willingness to be open to it.

To connect or not to connect.

That is the question.

Now you tell us Dear One….What is the answer?

Leaping and being pushed are two completely different experiences Dear One.

A friend that encourages you to leap is a good friend indeed.

A friend that pushes you over the edge, with or without your consent, is no friend at all.

When exiting a comfort zone Dear One, you should always do so by choice, by your own free will.

Leaping and being pushed do not both land you in the same place.

Remember that.

A piece of you is here Dear One, and a piece of you is over there.  A piece of you is at your desk.  A piece of you is worrying about a friend.  A piece of you is planning dinner.  A piece of you is getting ready for what’s next, what if, and what could be. And a piece of you is thinking about all of the things that you need to do, want to do, have done but don’t believe that you have done well enough, and so on.

We get it.  You know how to do multiple things at once (or at least try to).  It is a skill that you have been practicing for most of your life with varing degress of success.

But what if today you tried something new Dear One?

What if today, instead, you practiced doing only one thing a time?

It is the fastest way we can think of that will help you to pull yourself right back together again.

How do you treat someone that you love Dear One?

• Do you call them stupid when they make a mistake?
• Do you call them unattractive when they gain a few pounds?
• Do you call them a loser for coming in 2^nd, 3^rd, 4^th, or last even?
• Do you tell them that they are a failure when things don’t work out as planned?
• Do you judge them for not making more money?
• Do you think less of them when they are tired, stressed, or not well?

Do you see where we are going with this?

If you need proof in order to believe Dear One, look for it, and you’ll find it.

Believe us when we tell you that it is far from in short supply.

• Look for proof of abundance, joy, honesty, integrity, generosity, well-being, hope, love, and limitless possibility, and you will find it.

• Look for proof of lack, insincerity, dishonesty, deceit, imbalance, deception, selfishness, and limited resources, and you will find it.

Are you starting to get the idea?