You can’t force change Dear One, upon yourself or anyone else.
You (they) will change only when you (they) are inspired to do so. When you (they) believe that doing so will be to your (their) greatest advantage, to your (their) greatest benefit.
That is why people can and do endure the pain, discomfort and effort that can sometimes accompany change.
Not because they like it, not because they enjoy it, not because it is easy for them, not because they believe that they should or have something to prove.
They do it Dear One, because they know that doing so is going to serve them.
Enduring pain and discomfort on an inspired path to change is an empowering and joyful experience. It builds strength, endurance, and confidence.
Enduring pain and discomfort in the name of change when it is forced upon you, by yourself or by someone else, without a solid belief or knowing that it is for your greatest good, is a depleting experience . It only serves to weaken you, frustrate you, discourage you, and contribute to greater imbalance in your life.
That Dear One, is why change can’t be forced.
If you are feeling badly for them Dear One, if you are feeling sad for them, if you are hurting for them, feeling their pain, and wanting desperately to help in any way that you possibly can, our advice to you is this – DON’T.
Don’t try to fix it. Don’t try to make it all better. Don’t start looking for answers. Don’t try to come up with brilliant solutions.
Here’s what you should do instead.
Focus on feeling good. Focus on feeling better. Focus on whatever it is that you need to focus on to release your sadness for them and come back into alignment with your higher self, with your confident self, with your all knowing, joyous self.
Once you do that Dear One, then, and only then will you be in a position to be able to help in any meaningful way, and not a moment before.
How you feel is rarely the issue Dear One. Your feelings are not the problem.
Issues, problems, challenges, troubles do not arise from having feelings.
They arise Dear One, when you respond poorly to them.
Can you appreciate the difference?
Having bad feelings is not a valid excuse for making bad choices.
Remember that the next time that you are feeling badly and you just may save yourself and those around from a world of unnecessary hurt.
The universe has no ego Dear One, unlike you.
It has no emotional, social, or financial agenda for your life either, unlike you.
The universe just tells it like it is.
You live your life, you make choices, you feel, you create, you vibrate, you send your energy out into the world, and the universe reflects it back to you.
And it does so objectively, with no judgments, no distortions, no illusions, and no pre-set expectations.
The best way to definitively know how you are flowing your energy Dear One, is not by being conscious of the way that you feel while you are flowing it, while you are putting it out there (although that is important) – it is by being conscious of what you see and the way that you feel when the universe reflects it back to you.
Honor yourself and acknowledge your own divinity, with every thought, with every word, with every choice, with every action and with every interaction that you have today Dear One.
Why?
Because you are deserving of nothing less.
When you don’t have the time, money, energy, resources, strength, or patience to take on one more thing Dear One, we want you to take on one more thing — a positive attitude.
It will not cost you a cent, won’t take up any more of your time, will not require any extra physical effort on your part, and won’t add anything more to your already lengthy to-do list.
It requires so little of you, and delivers so much in return.
We know that you think you have reached your limit Dear One, that you have taken on all that you can, but trust us, you have not.
Just take on this one more thing, and you’ll see what we mean.
You’ve got nothing to lose and literally everything to gain.
So, will you do it?
Will you take on one more thing?
There is no difference between you and them Dear One.
You are all exactly-the-same.
It only appears as if there are differences between you because you all have evolved into phenomenal storytellers.
The stories that you tell each other and yourselves, are so good, so powerful, and so convincing that you, and they, actually perceive them as real.
But the thing is, they are not.
They are just stories.
You are all exactly the same Dear One.
Can you imagine what your world look like if you all started treating each other that way?
Try.
It’s a powerful first step.