When it comes to determining your self-worth, your intrinsic value, your perception of yourself, Dear One, all that really matters, all that will ever really matter is what you think of you, is your opinion of yourself.

You can ask them what they think, you can listen to what they have to say, you can try to ascertain their opinion by how they treat you, but we don’t think that it is going to be of much help to you.  Because in reality, what they think of you will only ever matter to you if you agree with them.

We’ll show you what we mean.

We know that you are amazing, Dear One, that you are divine, that you are a creative, powerful, and wise soul capable of doing, being or having anything that you want in this life.

And we also know that our telling you this will mean very little to you if you don’t, on some level, already believe us.

You see, Dear One, we can understand why you would want to know, why you would want to ask them, why you would want to try and figure it out, but the truth is that their opinion of you really is a meaningless quantifier of who you are and what you are capable of.

So we will say it again, when it comes to determining your self-worth, all that  matters, all that will ever really matter is what you think of you, is your opinion of yourself.

So, what DO you think of you?

People make mistakes, Dear One (yourself included).  It happens.

Berating them for it, making them feel badly about it, attempting to scold or punish them for it, is not going to help, fix, or undo it,  is not going serve anyone or anything in any positive way.

Bitching, complaining, ranting, raving, and acting out, while it may feel good and appropriate in the moment, will not help them or you to turn things around, or improve the situation at all.

But, focusing your attention and energy on the desired outcome, on identifying a solution, on making things better, on how to improve things from here,  will.

If you want to help them grieve, Dear One:

• Ask them what happened
• Ask them how they are doing
• Ask them how they are feeling

If you want to help them heal:

• Ask them to tell you about the one that they lost
• Ask them to tell you what they love most about them
• Ask them to tell you how they made them laugh
• Ask them to tell you how they made them feel

Help them to remember, and re-connect with the love, not the loss

Run, don’t walk away from anything or anyone that causes you to feel unsafe today, Dear One.

We don’t want you practicing/learning how to better tolerate the discomfort of mistrust.

We want you learning how to heed to it.

It’s really important.

Your choices, your decisions, your actions in the present moment are creating your future, Dear One.

In what direction do you want to go with your life?  What future are you trying to create for yourself?

• Is it one filled with work that frustrates you?
• Is it one filled with insecurity and uncertainly in your relationships?
• Is it one filled with anger, lack and fear?
• Is it one filled with balance and awareness?
• Is it one filled with health and stamina?
• Is it one filled with joy, meaning, contentment and happiness?

It is your happiness on the line.  It is your body.  It is your time.

Choose wisely, Dear One.  Your future depends on it.

Remember, Dear One, whenever you feel scared, chaotic, lost, or out of control, that your center, your home,  is always only ever one slow, deep breath away.

Make a sacred pledge to yourself, Dear One, right here and now, to love yourself, no matter what.

• No matter what you said. No matter what you thought. No matter what you did (or didn’t do).
• No matter what they said. No matter what they thought. No matter what they did (or didn’t do).

Decide right now, to love yourself anyway.

Because to decide otherwise, Dear One, is to decide to cut yourself off from your source, just when you need that connection the most.

Because to decide otherwise, is to decide to reject the most powerful tool you’ve got at your disposal for turning things around.

Today we want you to count your blessings, Dear One.

Why?

Because when you are counting your blessings you are not counting your challenges, your struggles, your heartaches, your disappointments, your fears, your pains, your mistakes, or your losses.

That’s why.

Trust your instincts, Dear One.

We know that you know who you are, Dear One.

And we know that you know what you are capable of.

How do we know that you know?

Because the answer to both is whatever you decide that it is.

Remember that while you are making up your mind.