With power comes great responsibility, Dear One.

But you should know that the opposite is also true.

With responsibility comes great power.

The more you take responsibility for your life—your choices, thoughts, words, actions and reactions—and accept that you are the one responsible for creating, attracting, and allowing every experience that you have, the more powerful you will be.

When it comes to love Dear One, forget about trying to change yourself, bend yourself, twist yourself, mold yourself into something that you think will inspire someone else to love you. It would not be a worthy use of your time – and it won’t work.   Trust us.

When it comes to love, what matters most is not someone else’s experience of you– but your experience of you.

You want to be loved? You want to be adored? You want to be cherished?

To you we say – Love yourself – Cherish yourself – Adore yourself.

The experience of these things will be so much sweeter, will have so much more meaning, so much more impact, so much more influence on your life when they come from you then they ever possibly could coming from anyone else. If you don’t feel these things/believe that you are worthy of things from yourself first, how could you possibly embrace them coming from someone else?

If you want more of these things in your life Dear One, give them to yourself.  Give yourself all of the things that you have been waiting, hoping, praying that someone else would give you and watch and see what happens.

Watch and see how quickly it will be before others will be lining up give them to you as well – to share in the experience of you with you.

Imagine if you can for a minute Dear One (longer if possible), things exactly as you want them to be.

Don’t just think about it.  Picture it in your mind.  Feel it in your heart.  Allow yourself to really go there.

• What does it feel like?
• What does it look like?
• What does it sound, smell and taste like?

Are you seeing it? Are you feeling it?  Are you excited about it? Are you enjoying the imagined experience of it?

If so, you have just done more in that one minute (or longer) to bring yourself closer to having it, then all of the efforts you have exerted up until now trying to create it for yourself focused on not having it.

The universe has no ego Dear One — unlike you.

It has no physical, emotional, social, spiritual, or financial agenda for your life either —unlike you.

The universe just tells it like it is, no BS.

You live your life, you make choices, you feel, you create, you vibrate, you send your energy out into the world, and the universe reflects it back to you, objectively, with no judgment, no distortions, no illusions, and no expectations.

The best way to know for sure how you are flowing your energy Dear One, is not by trying to be more conscious of the way that you feel while you are flowing it, while you are putting it out there (although that is important) – it is by becoming more conscious of how you feel, what you see, and what you get when the universe reflects it back to you.

How much light you have in your life Dear One, how connected you are to source, is entirely up to you.

We, consciousness, guidance, spirit, source, are not more available to you on some days and less available to you on others.   We are not more available to some people and less available to others.

We are equally available to all, like the sun, and from our perspective, there are no rainy days.

The openness of your heart Dear One, your ability to trust, is what determines the amount of light in your life, how connected you are to your source.  Nothing more and nothing less.

You can choose to open up the shades a little and let a small amount of light in, or you can choose to open them up all the way and let the light pour in all around you.

Just how bright would you like it to be today, Dear One?

Once you choose to engage in a relationship with someone Dear One, once you choose to invest your energy, in any capacity, it is invested, and it will stay invested until you choose to consciously take it back again.

Simply walking away, ignoring, dissing or dismissing someone is not going to be enough to sever your connection with them.

If you are wondering why it is that so often feel as if you are being pulled in this direction and that direction, tugged this way and that way, when all you are trying to do is focus on the task that is in front of you, this is why.

Your energy will continue to interact with theirs Dear One, whether or not you are actively engaging in the relationship, until you consciously choose to disengage, until you consciously choose to take it back, until you consciously choose to move on, and not a moment before.

A lack of confidence in yourself is just an excuse Dear One, it is not a good enough reason not to try.

The time to compromise Dear One, is not when you are feeling compromised, weak, ill, needy, or out of sorts.

That is the time for you to practice radical self-love.

And while we understand that choosing to do so may feel like the selfish choice to you, especially because it means that you are potentially letting someone else down when they need you, we can assure you, that it most definitely is not.

Choosing to practice radical self-love when you are not functioning at full strength, is actually the most selfless thing that you can do to serve the greatest good of all parties involved.

Here’s why:

1. It will help you to heal and regain your strength as quickly as possible so that you will once again be in a position to be able to confidently and generously share your energy with those around you.
2. It will give them an excellent model to follow so they can begin doing the same for themselves.

The more you love Dear One, the more love you bring into this world, the more love there will be!

Learning to play the accordion, paint, teach, or split an atom requires practice, Dear One.

So does learning how to be more open, bold, tolerant, loving, trusting, and accepting of yourself and others.

Whenever you are practicing something new, regardless of what it is, we want you to know that it is essential that you also remember to practice patience too if you ever hope to achieve any level of success.

Not because we want you to expect or anticipate that whatever it is you learning is going to take a long time to achieve, because it may not.

We want you to practice patience Dear One, because of your tendency to want to punish, judge harshly, or put yourself down when you encounter something new, when you come across something that you have not yet mastered, when you discover that you do not yet already know it all. (i.e. I can’t believe I missed that, how come this is so hard for me, how stupid of me to have not known that, and so on. You get the idea.)

Why does it matter?

Because you can’t judge yourself, be frustrated with yourself, or put yourself down and grow in any positive way at the same time.