If someone is not living up to your expectations of them Dear One, instead of being disappointed, instead of trying to change them, instead of trying to fix them, instead of trying to force yourself to not care in order to put an end to your unhappiness, why not simply change your expectation of them instead?

Now, wouldn’t that be easier?

Please remember Dear One, that having a bad feeling is not a valid excuse for making a bad choice.

Thank you!

Why struggle, when you can allow Dear One?

Why pretend when you can be truthful?

Why fight when you can accomplish so much more by connecting?

Why be hard on yourself, when you can choose to be loving, caring, nurturing, and supportive of yourself instead?

You can’t stop all hurts from ever reaching you Dear One, but you can stop making them worse for yourself when they do.

What is it that you are going to choose to talk about today Dear One?

• The things that you love or the things that you hate?
• The things that you have or the things that you don’t?
• The things that make you feel strong or the things that make you feel weak?
• The parts of you that are hurting or the parts that are healing?
• The things that are wrong with the world, or the things you can do to make it better?

The story that you tell is the story that you create.

So, think first and decide before you speak Dear One, what it is that you want to create for yourself today.

When what you want is not what is showing up for you Dear One, a simple misalignment may be all there is to blame.

How do you know if this is the case?

Ask yourself if your actions, thoughts and beliefs are in alignment with your desires.

And remember:

• You can’t reach abundance with actions motivated by fear, scarcity, or deprivation
• You can’t reach joy with thoughts fueled by anger, regret or despair
• You can’t reach love with a belief that you are not worthy of it

Do you trust yourself enough to really let go, to follow your heart and  see where it will take you?

If yes, what are you waiting for?

If no, what are you waiting for?

Will you be a creator or a victim of your circumstance today Dear One?

Which you choose is up to you.

But we just really wanted you to remember that there is a choice to be made.

There is no beginning, middle and end to you Dear One.

• You are eternal.
• You will never not be divine.
• You will never not be a powerful creator.
• You will never not be a part of all that is.
• You will never not be connected to us, and we will never not be connected to you.

You are, always have been and always will be all of these things all the time Dear One, regardless of how you feel, regardless of how you look, regardless of what you say, think, do, or believe.

There is just no escaping it.

Choosing to change can be hard enough Dear One, so why not choose to leave the judgment out of it.

Make change a judgment free zone.

What does that mean?

• It means no beating yourself up for wanting, needing or having to change in the first place, for not doing it sooner, perfectly, or as good as, or better than anyone else.
• It means no harsh or negative self-talk while you in the middle of it (or at any other time either for that matter).
• It means no could have’s, should have’s, or would have’s if only I had……
• It means not using someone’s else’s path, experience, or success as an opportunity to diminish your own.

It means being loving, kind and nurturing to yourself throughout the process.   It means reassuring yourself that you areworth it, that you will, figure it out, that it will get easier, that you will feel better, and that you are not in it alone.    It means celebrating, honoring and cheering yourself on for making the decision to change in the first place and for being on your way.

Think about how much more energy you will have available to you to dedicate to your work, to yourself, to the changes that you are trying to make Dear One, if you left the judgment out of it.

Trust us.  It’s a lot.