Childhood is over Dear One. You are no longer a little person living within an environment that you have seemingly no control over. You are an adult and whether you believe it or not, you are able to make decisions for yourself.

When faced with a trial that requires you to face your past, remember that whatever it is, it is no longer your current reality. You don’t have to bring it back into the present moment with you if you choose not to. Others might approach you on the subject with energy, impressions or patterns that used to exist back then. It may still be their reality.  That doesn’t mean that it has to continue to be yours.  Remember at those moments, that you can choose not to dive right back into old patterns with them. You can choose to stay right where you are, in the present moment and deal with the situation from where you now stand. Just because they are choosing to engage in old patterns, does not mean that you have to join them in this practice.

When facing the past Dear One, anchor yourself in the present first, for that is the only place from where you can impact change.   KNOW that what you have learned and accomplished for yourself since that time, no one can take away from you, ever.

In the present, you get to decide what your past means to you. You can assign a lot of meaning to it or no meaning at all. That is completely up to you and only you.

What are you thinking about the day ahead of you Dear One?

• Are you looking forward to it or dreading it?
• Are you anticipating the best from it or the worst?
• Are you picturing it going very well or very poorly?
• Are you feeling like everything you want is possible or that nothing that you want is?

Now, what do you think about your answers to these questions?

Just a reminder that if you don’t like them, if you are not enjoying the way that they make you feel, you can change them anytime you would like.

Clean up Dear One. There is an abundance of “clutter” around you that quite frankly, you would feel so much better without. There is an excess of uncertainty, restraint, and frustration in your life.  There is too much self pity, self-doubt, fear and need for approval.  It will be much easier for you to create the life that you want for yourself when your space is not full of all of the things that you don’t want.

Are you ready to let go and be rid of these things?  It is easier to do then you might think.  Here is the trick:  Do nothing.  That’s it.   That’s all.  Do nothing and all of the excesses in your life will fade away, diminish, be gone.

Do nothing to acknowledge them.  Do nothing to feed them.  Do nothing to indulge them or justify them or explain them or rationalize them.  Do not apologize for them.  Do not track how long you have had them.  Do absolutely nothing to, or for them anymore……and they will go away.

As soon as you stop feeding, fueling and acknowledging that which you no longer want, that which no longer serves you, it will cease to be.  It is your attention to something that causes it to grow, that gives it energy, that attracts more of it to you.  So instead of giving even the smallest amount of your attention to that which is unwanted, try instead, to give it only to that which is wanted.  And then watch those things begin to take on a place of dominance in your life.

Clean up your thoughts Dear One and you will begin to clean up your life.

Just how powerful are you Dear one?

That is something that only you can decide.

Before you make a decision Dear One, before you choose and take action, always remember to ask yourself the following question first;

• Which part of me is about to do the choosing?

Is it the wise part of me, or the insecure part me, the adventurous part or the frightened part, is it the confident, excited, joyful part, or the petty, angry, or hurting part?

We are sure that you can understand why it would always be to your greatest advantage to do so.

If you let the fear of tomorrow fade away Dear One, and you let the regret of yesterday go with it, what are you left with?

Your present.

We want you to know Dear One, that regardless of whatever else you may have going on in your life right now, that you are absolutely free to choose to think any thought that you want to, anytime that you want to;

• About yourself
• About them
• About what is
• About what has been
• About what could be

If you don’t like the one that you are thinking right now, if it is not bringing you pleasure, joy, contentment, hope, excitement, or relief, you are free to choose another.

Your thoughts determine your reality Dear One, they impact the quality of every single experience that you have, and they influence the quality of every single experience that you are about to have.

So please don’t be so quick to dismiss them and the significant power that this particular freedom of choice affords you.

Building up your defenses Dear One, putting up a wall, is one way that you can try and protect yourself from the world, but you should know that is far from the best or most effective way to do so.

Cutting yourself off, hiding yourself away, indulging in suspicion, fear, doubt, anger, and defensiveness are all actions that will, above all else, only serve to weaken you over time.  The more you indulge in them, the more they will wear you down, the worse you will feel, the more vulnerable you will be.

But love will build you up. Trust will empower you. Confidence will strengthen you. Positive, joyful, meaningful, connections that you enjoy will make you stronger, will build up your strength.  The more you indulge in them, the more powerful you will feel, the more powerful you will be.

If you want to protect yourself Dear One, open up, trust, make new connections, build up your confidence by joyfully engaging with the world.

If you really want to protect yourself Dear One, build bridges not walls.

While you are the process of learning something new Dear One, it is not the right time to be hard on yourself.

It is the time to be kind, loving, patient, forgiving, encouraging, nurturing, compassionate, and generous with yourself.

And since you are pretty much in the process of learning something new all the time…..

The right time to be hard on yourself, is, well, never.

It is OK to miss them Dear One.  It is simply an indication of a space being open now inside of you where once it was filled.

You can choose to hold that space open and keep it void of something new for as long as you want.  But you should know that holding open an empty space in a universe that is fluid and full will require a great deal of effort – and could result in a great deal of heartbreak.

But in contrast to this – to missing – know that this space will not remain empty for long, if you don’t want it to.  The universe fills spaces.  It is one of the things that it does quite well – with elegance, grace and ease.  It will fill up the space with something wonderful, if you ask it to, if you will allow it to.

It’s OK to miss Dear One.  It’s OK to continue to hold on and remember.  But please don’t choose to spend too much time with you attention on the absence of what was.

When you are ready, choose instead to focus you attention on those thoughts, feeling and memories that bring you joy, that make you feel good, that bring a smile to your heart and to your lips.  And as you allow your energy to shift, allow yourself to start to get excited about what is yet to come –  about what is headed your way – right this very minute.  Because If you are looking forward to it with joy, love and excitement in your heart and a smile on your face – you can be sure that  when it gets here, it is going to be oh so very good.