You feel the way that you feel Dear One, because you think the way that you think, you act the way that you act, you behave the way that you behave, you choose the way that you choose, you speak the way that you speak, and you believe the way that you believe.

Can you see that?

We are not saying that you are to blame for the way that you are feeling, but we are saying that you are responsible for it.

And the beauty of believing us, the beauty of accepting that what we are telling you is true is that once you do, once you accept that responsibility, you will never again have to feel victimized by your emotions because you will know that you have the ability to change them, or to react differently to them, anytime you would like.

You don’t need to change your reality to begin to turn things around Dear One — just your mind.

You can choose to focus your attention on what’s wrong Dear One, on that which is making you feel badly if you want to, but you should know, that you absolutely don’t have to.

It really is ok for you to just let it go.

Shine, right where you are Dear One.

Practice patience Dear One.

• Not because it is a virtue
• Not because we are asking you to
• Not because it is the adult, enlightened or spiritual thing to do

Practice patience Dear One, because impatience only serves to hold you apart from that which you are wanting, from that which you are waiting for.

Practice patience because once you have achieved clarity and reached a good feeling place when thinking about what it is you desire, patience is one of the most effective ways of allowing it to reach you.

Just when you think you’ve lost it all Dear One, or when you are afraid that you are about to, remember this:

You’ve always got another choice to make.

Remember Dear One, whenever you feel scared, chaotic, lost, or out of control, that your center, your home,  is always only ever one slow, deep breath away.

Did you ever ask yourself where would you be without challenges Dear One?

Challenges push you, pull you, bend you, throw you, turn you inside out. And when you choose to take them on, motivate you like nothing else.

When you are faced with a challenge, and you choose to take it on, you push yourself beyond your own comfort level, you generate new energy, you discover creative solutions, you seek out help and make new connections , and sometimes even sever old ones. You generate passion and courage for yourself to do something that you have never done before, to face something that frightens you, to create something new.

Can you think of any other thing that propels you forward like this besides a challenge?

It can be done. We know it’s possible. We know you can do it.  But do you? If there was no urgent need that threatened your comfort, your security, your pride, your sense of self, would you push yourself beyond your edges to grow?

If you decide that the answer is yes, then you will no longer need challenges to be a catalyst for growth in your life Dear One. You will instead let love, curiosity, passion, a desire to experience change and motion be your motivator and propel you to identify and confront your fears head on, to push you to grow, to show you what your limits are and catapult you past them.

Challenges are just a tool Dear One. And an effective one at that.  Try to see them as such.  Let them serve you, not unnerve you.  And if you want to embrace change without the accustomed aches, pains, turmoil and tumult of a challenge, make a conscious decision to push yourself forward when you are not challenged. Demonstrate to the universe that you are ready to learn another way, and you will be shown one.

As soon as you stop feeding it Dear One, with your thoughts, with your words, and with your actions, and with your beliefs, it will cease to grow.

Keep it up long enough, and it will disappear all together.

Know Dear One, that they are not better than you.

They are not more valuable, worthy, or important than you are either.

Their words, actions and beliefs are not more significant than yours are.

The story of their life does not matter more than the story of yours, regardless of how they may act, or what they may say.

And they are most definitely not, in any way, shape or form, more divine than you are.

They may have acquired more knowledge than you on a particular subject, they may have become more practiced than you at a particular skill, they may be more educated, physically fit, or have a greater understanding of how to accumulate wealth than you do, but that just makes them different Dear One, not better.

Remember that the next time you are feeling intimated by someone else success or achievement.

Remember in that moment that instead of giving into your feelings of intimidation that you can always choose to see the situation for what it really is; an opportunity for you to be inspired by or learn something new from someone who is in every way that matters– your equal.