Yes, there is much for you to feel badly about Dear One.

There are many reasons for you to be sad.

And there is a lot for you to be angry, hurt, disappointed, distressed, and resentful about too.

If those are the things that you want to choose to give your attention to, to focus on, then by all means go right ahead and do so.

But you should know that there are just as many joyful, peaceful, inspiring, loving, hopeful, helpful, good feeling options available to you as well, whenever you are ready to choose them.

Your heart does not have an off switch Dear One.

It is always speaking to you. It is always guiding you. It is always showing you the way.

If you should find yourself in a place where all you can hear is the voice in your head, the voice of fear, insecurity, doubt, judgment, concern, guilt, lack, or despair, it is does not mean that your heart has shut down, it does not mean that it has stopped reaching out to you. It is just a reflection of what you are giving your attention to.

The voice that you give your attention to Dear One, is the one that you will hear the loudest.

If you want to turn the volume back up on your heart, so that you can hear it loud and clear, so that it is the dominant voice within you, simply choose to give your undivided attention to it.

Do this and it won’t take long before all of the other rumblings you hear within you become nothing more than a faint and distant murmur in the background.

Do you ever wonder Dear One, how it came to be exactly that you have such a low opinion of yourself when it comes to…… (you fill in the blank)?

• Your appearance
• Your intelligence
• Your creative abilities
• Your potential
• Your contributions
• The value of your opinions
• Your accomplishments and achievements

We can tell you.

It is because at some point in time you decided to believe that your worth or value was determined by the look that you saw in someone else’s eyes, or the words you heard spoken from someone else’s lips.

Somewhere along the line, you came to believe that the truth of things was determined not by you, but by those around you.  And you decided to give more weight to their criticism, judgment, an opinions than to your own.

But good news! There is a quick remedy to that Dear One.

Stop looking in their eyes to determine your worth.  Stop listening to their words to hear your value.

Know that you are a divine spirit who’s appearance, intelligence, creative abilities, potential, contributions, opinions, accomplishments and achievements are beautiful, valuable and significant, regardless of what they think.

It is not a matter of opinion Dear One, it is a fact.

Now all you have to do, is believe it.

It is the glasses that you choose to wear, that you choose to put on each morning Dear One, that determines the way that you see the world each day.

You can choose to view the world and all of the people, places, events and circumstances in it through lenses of horror, self-pity, anger, frustration, judgement, disgust, or fear if you want.  Or you can choose to view the world through lenses of compassion, curiosity, optimism, hope, empathy, humor, or love.

Remember that the choice is yours.

You can choose to see things from any perspective that you’d like.  And if you should decide that you don’t like the view that you’ve chosen, if you should find that what you are looking at is not pleasing to you, know that you can change it anytime by simply putting on a different pair of lenses.

What can you do for someone who is leaving you Dear One, for someone who is in the process of leaving your physical world and transitioning to spirit?

You can do the only thing for them that you can ever do for anyone else in your life, regardless of what stage of living or dying they are in.

You can love them.

Loving them is not pitying them. And loving them is not fearing for them.  And loving them it is not fixing them, healing them, or deceiving them either.

The very best thing that we can tell you to do for your friend today Dear One, for all of your friends and loved ones  for that matter is this – just keep right on loving them.

Make all of your decisions today Dear One, as if there was someone standing beside you, holding your hand, encouraging you, supporting you, loving you, adoring you, believing in you, cheering you on every step of the way.

Why?

Because there is.

You have come forth into this life Dear One, to be a human being, not a human trying, a human struggling or a human judging.So stop trying, struggling and judging so hard, and allow yourself to just be.

• Be yourself. Be authentic. Be honest.
• Be loving.  Be caring. Be compassionate.
• Be inspiring.  Be creative. Be brave.
• Be sad.  Be angry.  Be confused.
• Be imperfect. Be flawed. Be uncertain.
• Be whatever it is that is in your heart to be.
• Be whatever it is that makes you happy, content and peaceful.
• Be right where you are.

Be what you have come forth to be Dear One.

You.

While you are the process of learning something new Dear One, it is not the right time to be hard on yourself.

It is the time to be kind, loving, patient, forgiving, encouraging, nurturing, compassionate, and generous with yourself.

And since you are pretty much in the process of learning something new all the time…..

The right time to be hard on yourself, is, well, never.

We want to make this as simple for you as we possibly can Dear One.

Forgiveness has absolutely, positively, nothing what so ever to do with them.

It is simply the act of releasing your connection to something that no longer serves you,  releasing your bond with something that you no longer want to remain connected to.

It is letting go of the rope, removing your hand from the hot stove, exiting the burning building.

You are so keenly aware of, and easily accept the fact Dear One, that what you eat, contributes significantly to how you feel, and to the health and well-being of your physical body.

But did you know that who you spend time with, the people that you interact with, the company that you keep, has exactly the same impact on your energetic body?

If you could become just as aware and selective of your social consumption as you are of your physical consumption Dear One, it would not take long before your energetic body would restore, regenerate, and strengthen itself in much the same way that your physical body does when it is well cared for.