Emotional security is a state of mind, Dear One.

One that you can choose to experience anytime that you would like.

You can choose to allow yourself to experience it when you have the relationship that you want, or the job that you want, or the salary that you want, or the house that you want, or the family that you want, or the body that you want.

OR

You can choose to allow yourself to experience it right now, just as you are.

It’s totally and completely up to you!

*If you have questions about how to make that happen, please feel free to ask.

[NOTE TO SELF]

Remember, Dear One, that regardless of how scared, chaotic, lost, or out of control you feel, that the world feels right now, your center, your home,  is only one slow, deep breath away.

And we are there.

Always.

Do you want to know how you can be sure that you are always making the wise choice, Dear One?

We’ll tell you.

• The wise choice is never going to be the angry choice.
• The wise choice is never going to be the desperate choice.
• The wise is never going to be the fearful, insecure, jealous, vengeful, or spiteful choice.
• And it is most definitely not ever going to be the malicious, resigned, manipulative, defensive, or controlling choice either.

So, if you are trying to figure out what the wise choice is, Dear One, and the choice you are about to make comes close to resembling any of the above, know that you have not found it yet.

Being brave does not require that you be physically or emotionally strong, Dear One. It does not require that you be fearless or aggressive either. Nor does it require you to take a risk, be courageous, or just-do-it.

All that is required for you to be brave, Dear One, is trust.

The right thing to do cannot be determined by thinking it through, Dear One, no matter how much time you dedicate to the task.  Thought will always be limited by experience.

And the right thing to do is rarely the logical choice.  As we are sure that you have learned first hand by now, logic can be grossly deceptive.

If you want to know how to figure out what the right thing for you to do is, Dear One, we’ll tell you.

The right thing for you to do, is always going to be, whatever it is that your heart is telling you to do.

So if you want to save yourself a whole lot of  time, energy, and frustration, just trust it, right from the start.

Love is not meant to be tough, Dear One.

Today, just love.

Let that be enough.

Sometimes the most useful thing you can do, Dear One, to be of service to them, is to take really good care of yourself, to honor yourself, to nurture yourself, to prioritize yourself, to enjoy yourself, to shine, and show them how it’s done.

Don’t compartmentalize your life, Dear One. Don’t compartmentalize who you are, or where you think you belong, based on your strengths and weaknesses today.

ALL of you belongs everywhere.

There is no shame in slowing down to accommodate the parts of you that that need more help, that need more nurturing, that need more guidance, that need more attention.  That is where your attention belongs. That is where your attention should be.

You, Dear One, are a whole person.  There is absolutely no benefit to you to choose to sacrifice one part of yourself to support another, to sacrifice a weaker part of yourself to support a stronger part. To press on with your strengths and leave your weaknesses in the dust.

The truth is that it is the reverse of that that will ultimately be to your greatest benefit.
You want to allow the strongest parts of you to protect the weakest. Not the other way around.

Why?  Because those parts of you that are weak now, that are in most need of healing, hold for you the greatest potential for wisdom, for learning, for growth. Hold the greatest potential for adding value to the whole.

You don’t want to banish them in their infancy, Dear One.  You want to nurture them to their full capacity. And then watch, as the tables turn.

Those lessons, those values acquired through learning, through healing, once strengthened, will one day lead the charge by bring up the rear, by healing other parts of you that may fall behind.

In short, take the time to mend the weakest links, Dear One, don’t cut them loose, because in time, doing so, will serve to greatly strengthen and lengthen your chain.

^

In that moment when you realize that you’ve made a mistake, Dear One, taken a misstep, made a miscalculation, or a misjudgment, it is not the right time to be hard on yourself.

While it may feel like the most appropriate response, we can assure that it will not serve you one bit in correcting what you’ve done and starting the process of turning things around.