If someone is not living up to your expectations of them, Dear One, instead of being disappointed, instead of trying to change them, instead of trying to fix them, instead of trying to force yourself to not care in order to put an end to your unhappiness, why not simply change your expectation of them instead?

Now, wouldn’t that be easier?

If it didn’t make you happy yesterday, or the day before that, or the day before that, what makes you think it is going to make you happy today, or tomorrow, or the next day?

Unhappiness is much too high of a price to pay for loyalty, Dear One, to a person, idea, concept, community, or belief.

No one can tell you what you are worth, Dear One.

It just doesn’t work that way. You have to tell them.

And you do, everyday.

You tell them with every choice that you make, with every word that you speak,  and with every action that you take.

If you are still looking at the problem, Dear One, the solution will continue to elude you.

The only time that what they say, what they think, and what they believe matters, Dear One, is when you decide that it does.

Please remember that today.

You can be afraid or you can trust, Dear One.

But you cannot do both at once.

What we know, Dear One, that you might not, is that the only force in the universe that is capable of preventing you from doing, being, having, accomplishing, creating, or completing anything that you want, is you.

Which statement do you think best reflects your beliefs about happiness, Dear One?

• My happiness is dependent on a certain person or people doing certain things, at certain times, in certain ways, with a certain attitude.

• My happiness is dependent on certain events, circumstances, objects or opportunities being available to me when I want or need them to be.

• My happiness is totally and completely dependent on me, and on my certainty, above all else.

We just thought this was something that you might want to know about yourself.

Make a sacred pledge to yourself, Dear One, right here and now, to love yourself, no matter what.

• No matter what you said. No matter what you thought. No matter what you did (or didn’t do).
• No matter what they said. No matter what they thought. No matter what they did (or didn’t do).

Decide right now, to love yourself anyway.

Because to decide otherwise, Dear One, is to decide to cut yourself off from your source, just when you need that connection the most.

Because to decide otherwise, is to decide to reject the most powerful tool you’ve got at your disposal for turning things around.

You are not in this alone, Dear One.

But you, alone, are the only one who can change things.

If you want things to be different, if you want a different life, different circumstances, different relationships, you’re going to have to start choosing differently.

You, and you alone, are the only one who can make that happen.