Unfortunately Dear One, avoidance is not going to help you to relieve your anxiety.
Neither is confrontation, bravery, denial, will-power, brute strength, comradery, or perseverance.
The only thing that is going to do it, that is going to bring you relief for any sustainable length of time is trust, is learning how to trust yourself again.
And how, you might ask, are you suppose to do that?
The same way that you learn how to do anything else.
What do you think would happen Dear One, if instead of digging in, tensing up, shutting down, or pinching yourself off from well-being in anger, frustration, fear, hopelessness, or self-righteousness when facing a conflict, you relaxed, trusted, let go, accepted what was, and allowed yourself to open up to it instead?
If you don’t already know the answer, you should try it and find out.
If you don’t like something the way that it is Dear One, let it be.
That’s right. You heard us correctly.
Don’t try to fix it, fight it, change it, improve it or make it better in any way.
Simply let it be exactly as it is and make the decision to shift your attention towards that which is wanted instead.
Doing so will be a much more efficient, effective and pleasant use of your time.
Trust us.
Love is a choice Dear One.
The experience of it, the giving and receiving of it, does not just happen. You have to choose it, you have to choose to open yourself up to it, to allow it.
When two people make the decision to choose to experience it together, to give and receive it openly, freely, and confidently, to open themselves up to an experience of the divine and let love flow to them and through them, that is a sacred act, that is an example of a sacred union; a merging of you, them and the energy of all that is.
A holy man, a place of worship, a ritual, a doctrine, a document or a vow is not the force that makes the union sacred Dear One, you are.
[A PERSONAL NOTE: Sometimes I feel my heart clench with regret that I never got the chance to exchange rings with my love, and then they remind me of this, and it opens again.]
The more you Love, the more Love you bring into this world, Dear One, the more Love there will be.
Know Dear One, that the universe is very good at filling up empty spaces with wonderful things, if you let it.
Choosing to hold on Dear One, just may be the choice that is holding you back.
Something that is right for you, that is a vibration match to you, will move right along with you.
If you have to stop, stand still or move backwards repeatedly or for extended periods of time in order to keep it, if you feel like you are having to hold-on tighter and tighter to keep from losing it, you may want to consider the possibility that it is no longer right for you, and that it may be time for you to let it go and move on without it.
Everyone makes mistakes Dear One.
But not everyone is brave enough to take responsibility for them, learn from them, let them go, and move on.
Are you?
Where are you headed today Dear One?
In what direction are you planning on traveling?
What is it that you are hoping, wanting, desiring to come across on your path today?
Are your using your thoughts to bring you more into alignment with that which is wanted or that which is not?
In this moment Dear One, do you think you moving closer to or farther away from your desired destination?
Answer these questions, and you will know!