No matter how badly you feel, no matter how badly you made them feel, no matter how much you punish yourself, or those around you, regret will not solve, fix, change or improve anything for the better, Dear One.
It never has and it never will.
Regret won’t help you or them to forget, forgive, connect, improve, repair, restore, heal, or move on.
But forgiveness will – hope will – courage will – faith will – strength, love, kindness, and compassion will.
What are some good reasons for you quit, Dear One?
Frustration, fear, insecurity, discomfort, uncertainty, anger, sadness, doubt, distrust, jealousy, anguish, ambiguity, or despair.
None of these qualify.
So what does?
Any reason that stems from a source of strength, determination, confidence, honesty, clarity, or complete understanding.
Any reason that serves to consciously and intentionally bring you closer to that which is wanted, and not simply farther away from that which is not.
What do you think now?
Are your reasons good enough?
You don’t have to wait to see what kind of day today is going to be, Dear One.
You don’t have to wait and see if it is going to be a good day or bad day.
You can decide for yourself right now.
How?
That’s how.
Here’s a good one for you, Dear One.
Don’t’ wonder if it’s all going to be okay in the end.
Know that it will be.
Why?
Because it’s true.
And because believing it will feel a whole lot better than not believing it while you are in the process of getting there.
Yes, there is much for you to feel badly about, Dear One.
There are many reasons for you to be sad.
And there is a lot for you to be angry, hurt, disappointed, distressed, and resentful about too.
If those are the things that you want to choose to give your attention to, to focus on, then by all means go right ahead and do so.
But you should know that there are just as many joyful, peaceful, inspiring, loving, hopeful, helpful, good feeling options available to you as well, whenever you are ready to choose them.
Why do their feelings about you impact you so Dear One? Why does their emotional state, what they feel and think about you have so much effect on you?
That’s easy.
The reason that their feelings towards you distress you, hurt you, worry you, upset you so much is because you believe that you are lacking in some way Dear One, that you are lacking something that you can only get from them.
But the truth of it is Dear One, that that there is nothing that you can get from anyone else that you can not get, attract, acquire, or create on your own. The truth of it is that you are not beholden to anyone, for anything.
No one can give or take anything from you. The idea that you have in your mind that they can is simply an illusion. You and you alone are in control, are responsible for what you allow into your life, into your experience, and what you keep out of it.
They are nothing more than a mirror Dear One, reflecting back to you your belief of that which you believe you are worthy of receiving and that which you believe you are not.
Make sense?
These are just some of the things that you do for someone that you love, Dear One.
And we would like to encourage you to start doing all of them, everyday, for yourself.
We have something very important to tell you Dear One.
Something that we really want you to understand.
Here goes:
You are not now, nor have you ever been, out of control.
It’s just not possible.
Whether you believe it or not, changes nothing.
You are in control.
You are the one running the show. You are the one calling the shots.
You always have been, and you always will be.
Nothing you do ever, can or will change that.
Here’s why:
You are vibrational being Dear One, living in a vibrational universe.
What you put out there, what you give your attention to, what you focus on, what you ask for, is what you get back.
Without exception.
Nothing can come into your experience without an invitation.
That is just the way it works.
How much more in control could you hope to be?
Do you want to know where you belong, Dear One?
You belong in a place that makes you happy. You belong with people that you love and that love you. You belong wherever it is that you feel strong, supported, powerful, and creative. You belong where you feel encouraged, inspired, and energized, hopeful, courageous, accepted and safe.
That is where you belong, Dear One.
If, when you look around you, you find that you are not in a place like this, then perhaps it is time for you to acknowledge that where you are, might not be the right place for you.
There are two ways that you can choose to respond to any situation Dear One:
Which will you choose today?