You say you want things to be different and yet you continue to bring the same attitude, beliefs and expectations to the table each day. How can you continue to think, feel and act the same way and expect your experience to change?

Your circumstances are not holding you back Dear One. You are.

Don’t allow yourself to become imprisoned by the choices, decisions and promises that you made yesterday Dear One.

Your understanding of the world around you is constantly changing and growing. In every moment, the potential exists for you to know something new that you did not know the moment before. This new information is constantly changing your perspective – and this constantly changing perspective is a gift.  Don’t throw it away simply because you “adamantly” made a decision about something yesterday.

Today, your new perspective, your current vantage point, might allow you to see something that will make yesterdays perspective obsolete. Embrace those moments when they happen Dear One and allow them to change you, change your mind and change your behavior. It would be a real shame to stand in one place all of your life simply because you told someone that you would.

Don’t let your desire to be right or loyal or trustworthy supersede your desire to live your life to the fullest.  Don’t let the promises that you made yesterday stop you from living your life today.  The truth is that the people that you made them to have changed as well.  Their needs, desires and perspectives are not going to the be same forever either.

Honor yourself and your commitments as they make sense in the moment and don’t allow yourself to be ruled by a past that is already gone or a future that does not yet exist.

Don’t think any more than is absolutely necessary today Dear One.

Try trusting (yourself) instead.

Remember why it is that you are here Dear One.

It is not to tie up one more loose end, to make more money or to lose 5 more lbs.. It is not to complete the items on one more to-do list. It is not to prove a point – that you are right and they are wrong. It is not to beat yourself up – when they are right and you are wrong.

You are here to live your life and have an experience of being alive. You are here to feel, to create, connect, risk, love, laugh, cry, learn and trust. You are here to choose, decide, and know the depths to which you can experience joy. You are here to have an adventure and to discover who and what you really are and what you are capable of.

And when you discover all that, you are here to make the absolute most of your time, of this physical experience, that you are choosing to have.

Childhood is over Dear One. You are no longer a little person living within an environment that you have seemingly no control over. You are an adult and you now get to choose, without fear or concern of being disobedient to anyone else but yourself.

When faced with a trial that requires you to face your past, remember that whatever it is, it is no longer your currently reality. You don’t have to bring it back into the present moment with you if you choose not to. Others might approach you on the subject with energy, impressions or patters that used to exist back then. It may still be their reality.  That doesn’t mean that it has to continue to be yours.  Remember, at those moments, that you can choose not to dive right back into old patterns with them. You can choose to stay right where you are, in the present moment and deal with the situation from where you now stand. Just because they are choosing to engage in old patterns, does not mean that you have to join them in this practice.

When facing the past Dear One, anchor yourself in the present first, for that is the only place from where you can impact change.   KNOW that what you have learned and accomplished for yourself since that time, no one can take away from you, ever.

In the present, you get to decide what your past means to you. You can assign a lot of meaning to it or no meaning at all. That is completely up to you and only you.

You are the creator of your world Dear One. What you give out is what comes back to you. It is a universal law. Give out insecurity and you will attract insecurity. Give out caution, fear and distrust and you will attract caution, fear and distrust in the people, events and circumstances that surround you. Give out joy, creativity, inspiration, generosity, compassion, confidence and love and guess what you’ll get back?

What you put out there is what you get back. Pay attention and you’ll see.

You are much more in control than you think you are.  

It is understandable that you are wanting to continually explore new avenues and seek out new adventures and experiences Dear One. That is, after all, why you are here. But there is something to be said for finishing the food that is already on your plate before going back for more. When you have so many wonderful choices in front of you, it is not always for your greatest good to continue to pile up more up on top.

Think of it like covering a gourmet meal with chocolate. Chocolate can be a good thing- but not necessarily on top of everything. Some things are much better enjoyed on their own. Sometimes adding more to the top of what you already have is just — more. And as you know from experience, sometimes more can just make you sick.

You don’t have to be in such a hurry to take everything in all at once. Life is a journey that is meant to be savored, with an unlimited menu of experiences available to you – sweet, savory, crunchy, smooth, hot, warm, cool, cold.   Allow yourself to fully experience, digest, enjoy each one of them, one at a time. There is something wonderfully delicious available to you in each.  And if you are not paying attention, if you are focused more on “what else” or “what’s next” as opposed to what is, so many wonderful details will be overlooked or lost to you.

Don’t miss out, in your enthusiasm to experience it all.  Slow down, take your time and savor every bite.  There is no need to hurry.  There is no need to rush.  You do, after all, have an eternity – remember?

If you want to start feeling better about the decisions that you are making in your life Dear One, stop asking other people for their opinions about them.

You are here to have a personal experience of you, not a duplicate experience of someone else. There is no one that can ever know what is best for you better than you can.

Trust yourself a little bit more, your gut, your instincts and act accordingly. Make conscious decisions that make sense to you and soon you will find yourself living in a reality that is much more you then ever before.

What do you see/feel when you look around you Dear One? Do you see the life that you want for yourself unfolding before your eyes, or do you see someone else’s version of the perfect reality?

Give yourself some time to adjust to the fact that you are the creator of your own reality if you need to. But start trusting yourself and making decisions based on your desires, your experiences and your instincts right away.  There is no reason at all for you to wait.  Note how each decision makes you feel so that you can learn more about yourself and your preferences with each one that you make.