If you are angry Dear One, know this, they are not to blame.

Regardless of anything that they might have said, or done to piss you off or hurt you, they are still not to blame.

No one can make you feel something that does not already exist within you.

They can inspire you to get in touch with your anger, they can serve as an instigator, their actions can draw your anger up to the surface, but nothing that they do can inject anger into your heart.

Isn’t that great news?

Now you know Dear One, that when you are angry and you are ready to deal with it, that you don’t have go back and deal with them in order to do it.  You only have to deal with yourself.

If you are feeling badly Dear One, because they are hurting, if you are feeling sad for them, if you are hurting for them, feeling their pain, and wanting desperately to help in any way that you possibly can, our advice to you is this – DON’T.

Don’t try to help. Don’t try to fix it. Don’t try to make it all better. Don’t start looking for answers. Don’t try to come up with brilliant solutions. Just don’t.

Here’s what we want you to do instead.

Focus on feeling good. Focus on feeling better. Focus on whatever it is that you need to focus on to release your sadness for them and come back into alignment with your higher self, with your connected self, with your confident, all knowing, and joyous self that has absolutely no doubt at all whatsoever that everything is going to work out for the best.

Once you do that Dear One, once you are in a place where your vision of what’s possible is stronger than your vision of what is, then, and only then will you be in a position to help in a way that will make a significant difference.

Whenever you get the desire to quit Dear One, to throw in the towel, and give up before the end, ask yourself why it is that you want to do so, before you take any action.

• Is it because quitting will release you from a commitment that no longer serves you? Because it will bring you greater pleasure, joy, freedom, and opportunity to pursue something else that you believe will serve you?

• Is it because quitting will release you from having to do the hard work required to complete a difficult task?  Because it will prevent you from confronting your fears, from facing uncomfortable feelings, from the discomfort of growth and moving beyond that which is familiar to you, that which feels safe, into a place that could lead you to who knows where?

Quit or don’t quit Dear One. That is your choice.  It is not our place to tell you what to do.

But whatever you decide, we just want to make sure that you are aware of your reasons for doing it before you do.

The best thing that you can do for yourself right this minute Dear One, is to take a deep breath, clear your head, make a conscious connection with your heart, allow the smile to rise to your lips, and trust what it is telling you.

If you want to create real, enduring, meaningful change in your life Dear One – you’ve got to work from the inside out.

Doing it any other way will only create frustration, anxiety, worry, and heartache, or generate temporary results at best, a lesson that we are sure that you have already learned through experience by now.

So, how do you do this?

Shift your mindset and prioritize the creation of internal beauty, balance, bliss, and love over the creation of all of the same in your external world, and you will be on your way!

You are blessed Dear One, even when you are suffering.

You are divine, even when you don’t succeed.

You are a beautiful, even when your body is weak, your skin is blemished, and your heart is broken.

You are precious, even when you are without abundance

You are loved, even when you are alone.

You are what you are Dear One, and there is absolutely nothing that you can do, there is  absolutely nothing that they can do to you, that is ever going to change that.

Be patient Dear One.

• Not because it is a virtue
• Not because we are asking you to
• Not because it is the adult, enlightened or spiritual thing to do

Be patient Dear One, because impatience only serves to hold you apart from that which you are wanting, from that which you are waiting for.

Be patient, because patience is the quickest route for allowing your hearts desires to reach you.

Yes, you are strong Dear One, and you do not need to pretend not to be to ask for help, or support, or for someone to lend a hand or just keep you company.

Just because you can handle it on your own doesn’t mean that you have to.

If you don’t feel like doing it alone, exercise that strength of yours Dear One, and ask, just because.

They are going see in you Dear One, what they want to see in you, what they are ready to see in you, what they are looking for, what they are ready for, and nothing more.

And there is not a whole lot that you can do about that.

Isn’t that wonderful!

Now that you know that you don’t have to worry so much about trying to make a good first impression, about trying to please them, or impress them, or win them over, you can just be you, and instead put all of your energy into doing what you do best, into doing what brings you the greatest amount of joy,  into creating, sharing, and enjoying your life the way that you want to.

How do you move beyond your limits Dear One?

Recognizing that limiting thoughts, beliefs, words and actions are just that, limiting, is a really great place to start.