Why focus on feeling badly Dear One, when there are so many other more pleasant, pleasing and enjoyable options available to you?

Just curious.

What should you do next Dear One?

That depends.

What kind of experience do you want to have next?

• An experience of bravery or fear
• An experience of taking a risk or playing it safe
• An experience of opening a door or closing one
• An experience of giving love or withholding it
• An experience of forgiveness or anger
• An experience of self confidence or doubt
• An experience of patience or frustration
• An experience of connection or isolation
• An experience of action or hesitation

You decide, and then you choose.

So, what‘s it going to be Dear One?

What next?

Don’t wait for permission to do what you need to do Dear One.

Don’t wait for someone else to tell you that is OK to put yourself first.

Don’t wait until you’ve got everything else under control before making yourself a priority, before taking care of you, before doing what you love.

Those people over there, the happy ones, the rested ones, the ones taking care of themselves, feeling good, enjoying themselves, doing what they love to do, they didn’t wait.

And that is the only difference between them and you.

In your search for balance Dear One, are you:

A:  Aligning yourself with what feels good to you, your passions, your priorities, your needs, your wants, your desires, your vision for your life?

B:  Aligning yourself with what you think is suppose to feel good , with what you think your priorities are supposed to be, with what you think you are supposed to want, need and desire for yourself or with what they want, need or desire for you?

If you are continually finding yourself out of balance, out of alignment Dear One, your answer to this question may help you to understand why.

Whenever you get the desire to quit Dear One, to give up on something before it is completed, ask yourself why it is that you want to do so before you do.

•  Is it because quitting will release you from a commitment that no longer serves you and will bring you greater pleasure, joy, freedom, and opportunity to pursue something that will serve you?
• Is it because quitting will release you from the completion of a difficult task, from confronting your fears, from uncomfortable feelings, from  the discomfort of growth, the discomfort of moving beyond what is known to you, what is familiar to you,  what feels safe into a place that could lead you to who knows where?

Quit or don’t quit Dear One, it’s entirely up to you.

Whatever you decide, we just want to be aware of your reasons for doing so before you do.

You know Dear One, it isn’t absolutely necessary for you to express your opinion about everything.

It’s OK for you to reserve doing so for only those things that you like, that lift your spirits, that you agree with, that you feel hopeful about, that hold promise for you, that you find beauty in, that make you feel good, regardless of how much others may try to convince you otherwise.

That does not mean that we are encouraging you to turn a blind eye on all that you find unjust, disagreeable, heartbreaking, distressing or troublesome in the world.

It simply means that throughout the history of time, talking negatively about something, pouring negatively charged words, actions or feeling into a situation/problem that is distressing, unjust, troublesome, harmful, or toxic has never, not ever, not even once, solved it.

Do you think that you could commit to make seeking out, creating, and experiencing joy your top priority today Dear One?

Or did you have something else in mind?

Making up your mind Dear One, does not need to be such an amazingly complicated, confusing, stress inducing, emotionally painful experience, don’t you know.

The reason that it can feel that way, almost traumatizing at times, is that very often, before any action is even taken, you imagine the end result of every possible future outcome based on the decision that you are about to make, and you mourn the loss of every possible outcome that might never come to pass.  And that could drive anyone mad.

The truth is Dear One, that you have absolutely no way of knowing what tomorrow will bring, or the day after that, or the day after that.  And you have absolutely no way of knowing for sure what opportunities will or will not become available to you as a result of the choices that you do or do not make today.   So don’t waste your time stressing about it, trying to figure it out.  It won’t help.

But, what if, as an alternative to making yourself crazy when it comes time to making up your mind, you decided to make yourself happy instead?

Did you know that any decision that you make joyfully, from a good feeling place, regardless of how impetuous or how well thought out it may be,  will always bring you closer to the joy that you are seeking than any made from a place of tension, stress, confusion, turmoil or emotional distress?

It’s true!

Just something to keep in mind the next time you have to make up your mind about something, which will mostly likely be any minute now.

If you need a nap Dear One, take one.

Let joy, pleasure, happiness, excitement, confidence and hope guide your decisions Dear One, in place of obligation, fear, guilt, habit, insecurity or pity, and watch as things start to turn around as a result.

But be aware, this is not as easy to do as it may sound.

It will require that you remain conscious throughout your day – that you give your full attention to every choice that you make, every action that you take, and every answer that you give, starting with this one.

Do you think this is something that you can do Dear One?