Sometimes the best way you can give back Dear One, is to say thank you, mean it, and continue moving forward along your journey.

Release your expectations of them Dear One.

Let them follow their bliss, and you follow yours.

Because in the end your happiness is not determined by what they think, what they say, what they do or what they choose next.

It is determined by how you do all of those things.

You don’t only hurt when you are injured Dear One. You don’t only feel discomfort when something is broken.

Sometimes you hurt because you are in a space that no longer fits you, that is too small for you, that you have outgrown.

This may be one of those times.

How do you know?  If you believe that feeling better will require you to move backwards, to undo something that has already been been done, to take back something that has already been said, you know.

If that is the case Dear One, don’t try and fix it.  Don’t try to stop it, bandage it or cure it.  Don’t spend your time running around looking for a remedy that will help you to restore what was, that will allow you to move yourself back into the place that you were before, back into that space that felt safe, familiar and comfortable to you.

You don’t belong there anymore.

Just let it be.  Allow yourself to feel the unease, to feel the tension, to feel the discomfort that comes from being in a place that doesn’t fit.  Allow it to inspire within you a desire to move forward, from where you are now to someplace new, to someplace larger, more spacious and wide open.

And then when that inspiration strikes Dear One, when you see an opportunity that will allow you to move ahead instead of back, take it.

Yes, sometimes you hurt because you are injured and you need to retreat, rest, and allow what was to be restored.

But only you can know for sure Dear One, if now is really one of those times.

There is nothing wrong with feeling badly Dear One.

And there is nothing wrong with feeling sad.

There is nothing wrong with feeling angry, jealous, mad, frustrated, judgmental, insecure or uncertain either.

If that is where you are at, if that is what you are genuinely feeling in your heart, then yes, by all means, you should honor those feelings and allow yourself to experience them fully, to learn from them and understand what they are trying to teach you.

BUT, we want you to know that it is also honorable for you to choose not to.  It is also honorable for you to choose to prioritize your desire to feel better over whatever bad feeling you may be experiencing in the moment.  It is honorable Dear One, for you to decide to not give your attention to things that don’t feel good to you and choose instead, to give it only to things that do.

Make sense?

Why are we always encouraging you so strongly to be fully present in the moment Dear One?

We’ll tell you.

•  Now is the only place you can heal.
•  Now is the only place you can grow.
•  Now is the only place you can create.
•  Now is the only place you can laugh.
•  Now is the only place you can feel pleasure.
•  Now is the only place you can have an intimate connection with someone.
•  Now is the only place that you can fully enjoy the experience of being you, of being alive.

That’s why.

Do you feel good about the choices that you made for yourself yesterday Dear One?

We hope so. They were yours to make.  No one else did or could have made them for you.

But if for some reason you don’t, do you think that you’ll decide to choose differently today?

The only reason we are asking Dear One, is because how you respond now is going to determine how you will be able to answer this question tomorrow.

Choosing to change can be hard enough Dear One, so if you are going to go for it, why not choose to leave the judgment out of it.

What does that mean?

• It means no beating yourself up for wanting, needing or having to change in the first place, for not doing it sooner, perfectly, or as good as, or better than anyone else.
• It means no harsh or negative self-talk while you in the middle of it (or at any other time either for that matter).
• It means no could have’s, should have’s, or would have’s if only I had……
• It means not using someone’s else’s path, experience, or success as an opportunity to diminish your own.

Think about how much more energy you could put into the process Dear One, you could  have available to you to dedicate to your work, to yourself, to the changes that you are trying to make, if you left the judgment out.

Trust us.  It’s a lot.

Know Dear One, that they are not better than you.

They are not more valuable, worthy, or important than you are either.

Their words, actions and beliefs are not more significant than yours.

The story of their life does not matter more than the story of yours, regardless of how they may act or what they may say.

And they are most definitely not, in any way, shape or form, more divine than you are.

They may have acquired more knowledge than you on a particular subject, they may be more practiced than you at a particular skill, they may be more educated, physically fit, or have a greater understanding of how to accumulate wealth than you do, but that just makes them different Dear One — not better.

Remember that the next time you are feeling intimated.

Remember that in that moment instead of giving into your feelings of intimidation that you can choose to see the situation for what it really is; an opportunity for you to be inspired by or learn something new from someone who is in every way that matters– your equal.