The point of seeking out a loving relationship is not to find someone who will love you so that you can have love in your life, so that you can have an experience of being loved. You don’t need someone to love you in order to have love in your life. You are already loved, totally, completely, deeply, and eternally.

The point, Dear One, of seeking out a loving relationship is that it can teach you how to open yourself up to love, to let more love in, to let more love flow to you and through you. The right relationship will inspire you to open yourself up and allow you to experience more of the love that is already available to you.

Pay attention, Dear One, to how they make you feel, to what feelings they inspire within you.

If being in their company inspires you to feel good, if it inspires confidence, bravery, curiosity, kindness, and love, then do so as much as you possibly can.

But, if being in their company, if spending time with them inspires you to feel badly about yourself, inspires you to feel suspicion, insecurity, uncertainty, inequality, and doubt, then regardless of how much love they say they have for you, what’s the point if being with them does not allow you to feel it?

We think that you would agree Dear One, that it would be an absurd thing for you to do to begin each new day by taking actions and making commitments that you KNEW would end up hurting you, that you KNEW would end up generating results for you that you would rather not see come to pass.

Are we right?

And yet, that is exactly what you are doing when you start your day off with negative expectations.

Why?
Figuring out the answer to this question is not always going to serve you in a useful and positive way, Dear One.  In fact, it rarely ever will.

What now?
But figuring out the answer to this question, will always be useful to you.

If what you are in need of is useful answers, remember that the only way that you are ever going to find them, is to start by asking useful questions.

You are not doing this alone, Dear One.

We are right here with you every step of the way.

Guiding you.  Helping you.  Hearing you.  Loving you. Cheering you on.

Every minute of every day.

Don’t you forget it.

Regardless of what you may think, regardless of what you may feel, you are most definitely not doing this alone.

You are not meant to already have all of the answers, Dear One.

You are meant to discover them through the experience of living.

That is what you are here for.

So cut yourself a little slack today, okay?

Your life will change the moment that you do, Dear One.

And not a moment before.

If you really can do, be, and have anything that you want, Dear One, just like we keep telling you that you can, why do you think it is that you are continuing to manifest, to experience, so many things in your life that you don’t want, that you don’t enjoy, that are not pleasurable, or fun, or useful, or healing, or helpful to you?

If you don’t know the answer, that should be a pretty good indicator to you that you are not living, choosing and creating your life consciously.

If you do know the answer, then you know exactly what it is that you need to do about it!

They are not the reason you are exhausted, Dear One.

You are.  You are exhausting yourself by trying to please them, by choosing to prioritize them and their needs above your own.

They are not the ones to doing this to you.  You are doing this all by yourself, to yourself.

And you can choose to stop doing it anytime that you would like.

Decide right now what kind of day this is going to be for you, Dear One.

Don’t wait and let your boss, your friends, your partner, your client, your kids, the annoyingly loud person on their cell phone, or all of the other drivers on the road in front of you decide for you.

It is much too much of an important decision for you to leave in someone else’s hands.